Posts tagged Whole Lot
Happiness Starts at 50
Sep 7th
Lots of folks say that life ends at 50. Or maybe it’s 60 nowadays. However, the point is that people think of middle age as the peak of life, with everything after it being downhill. But it turns out people over the age of 50 are really happier than the younger folks.
A particular survey took a look at more than 300,000 people in the United State and took a look at some specific factors, for example, marriage, children, employment and the like. What came out the other end of the study was that well-being, or at least one’s determination of it, varies depending on the person’s age.
Things like how angry you are and stressfulness and other issues went down a whole lot from the time of the youth to the time of the old folks. However, things like worries stayed the same until middle age.
Another emotion, sadness, also went down after age 50, though the patter didn’t change a whole lot. In general, though, happiness tended to decline until the age of 50, after which point it seemed to increase.
The ladies had a slightly different experience. That went from higher stress levels and worries and sadness, but they also went to the happier place after the age of 50. The patterns tended to be equal across the genders which makes the genders equal no matter what the people have to say.
One of the things that the study really puts a lead pin inside of is the notion that you really have to examine your feelings, whether it is sadness, happiness, worry or stress. Also you might be happier for some reasons.
One thing they thought was that old folks have a better time of controlling their emotions, at least until a certain point. They may better understand their feelings and have more experience with being grown up.
The end result of all this is that people have a better idea of self- satisfaction. Some scientists like to argue. And that’s how they enjoy the rest of their short time on earth, rather than hiding behind a thick wall of regret.
Of course, nothing is so simple. We cannot confirm or deny that happiness starts at 50.
Just Confess
Aug 22nd
Today I have just done something which I thought I never would do. I confessed to every single lie that I’ve ever told that I felt made a difference. I’m actually going to have to do this in two parts (as I’m posting them) but the first part is done.
I cannot believe how long it took me to do this but what is harder to believe is the amount of piece that I feel now that it’s done.
The web of lies that I built had begun to strangle me. There was nobody I knew who I could speak to without having to consider what I’d told them or if they’d heard about what I’d told someone else or if what they believed was better for my ‘rep’ than what I could say.
Having conversations with people who I called friends turned into espionage missions which even c.I.A agents would shy away from.
The thing I didn’t realize was that these lies were actually affecting my success. Whenever I started a venture I’d be thinking about what other people would think about it. This would make me lie to them about what I was doing or even worse how successful what I was doing was.
Remember what I wrote about the fact that some people are ‘lying to live’ and ‘keeping up with the Joneses’. I was a victim of this same disease. In hindsight I was in the final stage of the cancer that was that state of mind.
The best thing about this disease is that it doesn’t take chemo to cure. You can get rid of it in one day. Simply confess. Tell the person or people you’ve lied to exactly what happened and let the repercussions be.
I know how hard this advice is to take and writing this I don’t expect a single person reading this article to heed it (not even the person approving it) but I’m just putting it out there because I assure you the second you do you’re going to feel a whole lot better.
I’m still basking in the after glow of my confession so just know more than ever I wish you the very, very best in the world.
