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Is it Really That Hard to Believe in Better Life?
Sep 11th
Each of us has dreams that he wants to fulfill, some people want to find true love, and some to succeed in a career, but most people wants to be millionaires. Globally, each of us strives something that will make us happy. The problem is that many people spend more time thinking about what they do not want. Is it a fear of failure or disappointment? Is it so hard to be positive and happy?
Fear really knows how to be a terrible thing. Force you to feel the pressure in the chest, cured your heart and do not manage to resist this terrible feeling. Turn your thoughts, play a joyful song, do anything just to turn thoughts as referring to “these things” will not achieve absolutely nothing.
Each of us under the sky cap has a right to be happy, be cheerful, to work on self improvement, to dream and to be being rich. Just remember when you were a child how much you have played with imaginary friends; worked in imaginary shops and enjoy in your game. When was the last time you dreamed and imagined what kind of life you want to have? Who took away our imagination? Why don’t we learn in schools how to imagine and thus attract everything we want?
First of all be positive, be thankful for everything you have in life. Why do you think you do not have to be thankful? Look around and you’ll see that there are many people who live much worse than you. Do you know just how many people in the world dies of hunger every day? Do you know how many people have no where to sleep? As you can see, you really have many reasons to be grateful.
Take paper and pencil and write why you are grateful. Write what kind of life you want to live, what you want to achieve, what you want to see, what people you want to attract into your life. Write all your wishes in the present tense, as if that life is already running. Focus on the goals that you want to achieve. Do not think about the way how this is going to happen, focus your thoughts on your end results.
Do you suspect that this is indeed the case? I ask you, do you know how many people have gone to America to realize the American dream? Do you know just how many millionaires in America that you never heard? Do you know how they came to that money? Imagine your life, mix your thoughts with the burning desire to succeed and keep faith. You have to believe if you really want to succeed.
Slow Down and Enjoy Relationships
Jul 17th
I keep my time saved in a box
From going fast in cars
I’ve piled it up high
From saying hello to friends with a quick goodbye
~Kathryn Williams, Flicker
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Corey Allan of Simple Marriage.
The world is seemingly moving at a faster pace. Everywhere you turn, the pace is quick. Deadlines are moved up, workload is increased, kid’s schedules are packed, to-do lists are long, housework never ends – it’s chaos.
At least it feels this way.
Has the world really sped up? Are there more things happening today than 50 years ago? No, and no.
Some things around us may involve more pressure and feel like it’s moving faster, but many times it only feels this way. Thanks to the Internet and cable we hear about everything that happens, immediately.
Our interconnectedness through technology has helped create the illusion of a faster paced world. It’s also created the illusion of less loneliness and isolation – but there’s nothing that can replace real life connections with other people. Physical contact and interaction is vital.
This loss of contact and the perceived pace of the world produces a feeling of chronic anxiousness and a decrease in the ability to find pleasure in some of the simple things.
Honestly, when was the last time you stopped and took in the smell of fresh baked bread? Or colored with crayons? Or walked barefoot in the grass? Or took a few minutes to just breathe?
No where is the impact of our pace felt more than in marriage and family. It’s extremely difficult to move hurriedly through your day and then slow down enough to enjoy your family or your spouse in the evening.
Some of the reasons marriage and family relationships go through sour patches is the squeezing they get from our schedules, disconnection, and pace. It’s easy to get caught up in other things and have the immediate outweigh the important.
To reverse this, here’s a few ideas to try:
Start small.
No change in life is easy or comfortable. Working to let go of the pace around you and creating your own speed takes time and should be attempted in small, incremental steps. Begin by giving yourself permission to slow down. This may seem like a no brainer, but many people believe they don’t have permission to slow down. You do. Whenever life seems to move too fast, take a deep breathe. Three to five slow, deep breaths will slow everything down.
Leave the office.
And I mean leave the office. Shut off all projects, messages, emails, phone calls and conversations and leave the office at the end of the day. Most everything can wait until the next day, so leave it alone until then. As an added help, create a routine to help you disengage from the office on the way home. Walk down the stairs slowly rather than taking the elevator. Drive down tree lined streets rather than the interstate. Walk or bike home from work if possible. Listen to good music while on the train or bus. Stop by the gym for a workout. No matter which way you transition from work to home, make it intentional. Breathe. Relax. Breathe. Let work go. Then walk through the door to your home and enjoy time with those you love.
Turn off all electronic gadgets.
This one is simple. Turn off the phone. The Internet. The television. Spend time talking, playing games, take a walk outside. The point is, unplug and connect with other humans.
Be 100% present.
This is tough at times. But it also is a source of increased tension in life. When I’m with my kids and have other things on my mind, my kids become a pest and source of frustration – at least that’s the way it plays out. When I’ve got work on my mind, my son’s request to play cars is an annoyance rather than an invitation into the world of imaginative play with my child. Whatever you are doing, focus on being 100% present. Multitasking is impossible anyway. Focus on doing one thing at a time and being 100% present while doing it.
Take a walk.
Make it a priority to walk with your spouse and your kids each day. There’s tremendous benefit to being out in nature, even if it’s nature in the city. Want a sure-fire way to improve your marriage? Walk and talk with your spouse at least 30 minutes a day.
Eat outside.
There’s something great about being in nature. There’s something even greater about sharing a meal with others outside. Head to the park for a picnic, eat on the patio at home or restaurants.
Prepare for your day.
Spend a moment at the end of your day preparing for the next day. Pick out clothes, make lunches, talk with your spouse. Then in the morning, before you jump into your day, take some time a simply sit quietly. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee. Breathe slowly, meditate, pray. What a great way to start each day.
Corey is the editor of Simple Marriage a site filled with laid back information that will make your relationships better. You can subscribe via rss or email.
