Posts tagged Tension
The Fear Of Something There Never Was
Nov 23rd
Very often people spend time worrying about the potential outcome of certain events that eventually don’t happen. It is just the human mind that keeps replaying all the disastrous consequences like a broken record. In hindsight when we look at the outcomes, in 9 times out of 10, what we feared most never happened.
But what we have lost is innumerable hours of worry, tension and stress about something that never happened. I believe as along as man has the ability to think, there will always be such events. You cannot totally rule out worry, but with time you will need to learn how to deal with it effectively.
One of the most effective techniques that I use to deal with such situations is to give it a timing perspective. Lets say that the worst imagined scenario did happen, will it matter to you one month from now, six months from now or perhaps a year from now. If you go down the other end of your time tunnel and try to look backwards in time at some stupid event that happened one year ago, you will suddenly realize how petty this is in the overall scheme of things.
At best, someone will shout at you, your manager may reprimand you, your partner will yell at you. A week later or maybe even earlier, things will soon return to normal. You will better for the experience and the situation may actually have been a blessing in disguise and may have taught you some valuable life lessons.
So the next time you are worried about something – remember to use the perspective tool and look at your problems from a distant perspective. Secondly, look for the silver lining in the crowd and hunt for the blessing in each adversity.
I keep repeating this to myself whenever I feel bruised and battered – that a diamond cannot be polished until it is cut and scraped. Each time I falter or encounter failure, I consider it as another chip off my exterior which is revealing the diamond within me. Soon you will look forward to more cuts and bruises than before, if you want the light within to shine worth brightly in the world.
Don’t be afraid of all the difficulties you encounter. Turn each stone thrown by your critics into milestones in your career path. Lastly, don’t fear something that never was. Show the light of courage to the shadows of fear and you will realize that there were no demons in the shadows.
Love Energy – To Have Or To Have Not
Oct 8th
Profound truth often is profoundly simple once revealed. Perhaps this is so with our new definition of love. While this law that applies to the flow of love energy appears obvious, usually it remains a mystery throughout life. We start as little children, thinking that when we get what we want, then we will be happy.
Wanting produces tension and a state of discomfort. When we get what we think we want, there is momentary relief of that tension and discomfort. This causes us to believe that satisfying our desire is the route to happiness. But soon we begin to want more, which propels us back into the state of discomfort and dissatisfaction. This wrong concept follows us throughout life. In Eastern disciplines, it is known as the Maya trap; and indeed, it is a trap because it snares many of us from birth to death.
I have often spoke about how people always are trying to get something as a means of finding happiness. I like to described how little children think that when they are big, then they will be happy. When they get candy, then they will be happy. When they start school, then they will be happy. When they get a bicycle, then they will be happy. When they graduate, then they will be happy. When they get a car, then they will be happy. When they find a girlfriend or a boyfriend, then they will be happy. Next, it is when they get into college, then they will be happy. When they graduate, then they will be happy. When they get a job, then they will be happy. When they get married, then they will be happy. When they have children, then they will be happy; when the children are grown and leave home, then they will be happy; when they retire, then they will be happy. Finally they retire, and in six months, they are so bored they go back to work.
Sadly, many never learn that you cannot get happiness; it is the by-product of giving. We have all heard that it is better to give than to receive, but we lose sight of this almost as soon as we hear it.
Some have everything but happiness while others have nothing but happiness. Who has more? Our formula might dictate that the easiest way to become a saint, and enjoy greater peace and happiness, is to care and do for those who have nothing to give in return. By eliminating the possibility of worldly reward, we eliminate the thought and therefore the desire to receive anything in return.
Witness Mother Teresa helping the dying in the streets of Calcutta. They had little or nothing to give in return. While appreciation always is welcome, it is probable she did not even seek that. If appreciation were her goal, she might never have reached such heights.
Having does not preclude happiness, but attachment does. Avoiding ownership removes the possibility of attachment to objects, but there can still be attachment to rituals and even man-made religious practices that are not from scripture.
The closer we approach total love directed outward, with no energy moving back to the self, the brighter our auras become. This is in keeping with the words I heard during the night, “The aura is the edge of the soul.” It makes sense that this is so. When we love, we are more like holy people, and our auras brighten. Could this explain the concept of drawing energy from the soul? Love provides energy. When we do something for someone else, which is love, we are more likely to succeed.
Athletes sometimes perform beyond their capabilities by dedicating an event to a deceased teammate or to a child dying of cancer. Many mothers conquer life-threatening conditions because they have a child who needs them.
It is only when we approach total love, with no attachment to anything, that we approach the incredible fountain-of-youth vision I was given one night, in which a holy man appeared, from whom flowed a beautiful fountain of love energy, depicted as light and extending arm’s length from the body from above the head and flowing downward. This love energy is the life force itself, which likely accounts for the extreme longevity among many of the persons in the Bible from millennia past, and for the longevity anticipated by Christians during the thousand-year period following Christ’s return when total peace and love are to prevail.
