Posts tagged Six Months
The Fear Of Something There Never Was
Nov 23rd
Very often people spend time worrying about the potential outcome of certain events that eventually don’t happen. It is just the human mind that keeps replaying all the disastrous consequences like a broken record. In hindsight when we look at the outcomes, in 9 times out of 10, what we feared most never happened.
But what we have lost is innumerable hours of worry, tension and stress about something that never happened. I believe as along as man has the ability to think, there will always be such events. You cannot totally rule out worry, but with time you will need to learn how to deal with it effectively.
One of the most effective techniques that I use to deal with such situations is to give it a timing perspective. Lets say that the worst imagined scenario did happen, will it matter to you one month from now, six months from now or perhaps a year from now. If you go down the other end of your time tunnel and try to look backwards in time at some stupid event that happened one year ago, you will suddenly realize how petty this is in the overall scheme of things.
At best, someone will shout at you, your manager may reprimand you, your partner will yell at you. A week later or maybe even earlier, things will soon return to normal. You will better for the experience and the situation may actually have been a blessing in disguise and may have taught you some valuable life lessons.
So the next time you are worried about something – remember to use the perspective tool and look at your problems from a distant perspective. Secondly, look for the silver lining in the crowd and hunt for the blessing in each adversity.
I keep repeating this to myself whenever I feel bruised and battered – that a diamond cannot be polished until it is cut and scraped. Each time I falter or encounter failure, I consider it as another chip off my exterior which is revealing the diamond within me. Soon you will look forward to more cuts and bruises than before, if you want the light within to shine worth brightly in the world.
Don’t be afraid of all the difficulties you encounter. Turn each stone thrown by your critics into milestones in your career path. Lastly, don’t fear something that never was. Show the light of courage to the shadows of fear and you will realize that there were no demons in the shadows.
Building Confidence And Setting Goals
Oct 14th
Goal Setting
Thinking about your ideal future, and for encouraging yourself to go round the visualization of the future into reality, goal setting is a most powerful process.
Tips for building confidence through goal setting
- First of all, make a list of all the things you want to accomplish in your life, large and small, and for each, give yourself a levelheaded timeline for completion-one you can commit to something and following through with. It really doesn’t matter that some goals have a short time line; say six months, and some as much as several years. You just get everything down on paper and out of your mind. Immediately, you’ll feel better for having a written record which frees you from having to keep in mind each goal.
- Goals which you have written down, create a few objectives, which need to be met-objectives, which will bring you closer to each goal. For each one of these objectives creates a timeline.
- Now the goals and objectives you have are identified, with a timeline for meeting each one, obviously you will find that both your attention and daily activities are more focused as you work to meet your timelines.
- To remain peaceful and cool under pressure; it is your strength ability. It may be possible that you are a good public speaker or have exceptional organizational skills and common sense. Knowing what strengths you have as you get started, so that you know exactly what you’re building on, is building self-confidence.
- People with lack self confidence are lost in thought with characteristics that they lack, such as being at effortlessness socially or being able to remain at ease in a job interview. You may be recently divorced and very uncomfortable about the thought of starting to date again. Every time you need to have a clear vision of where you’re trying to go and what you’re trying to accomplish.
- It is such a large goal that there is no chance of immediate success. For example, many people want to be financially free. This goal should be broken down into smaller steps so that you can see little pieces of the progress.
