Posts tagged Shame
Do You Have the Fear of Abandonment?
Nov 17th
From a small age, women develop the fear of abandonment. They live with the fear that if someone really knew them then they would be alone. Little girls, older women, and all ages in between want to know, “Am I loved?” Women are afraid of the answer and they hide. They hide in business, distraction, daydreaming, silence, shame and actual hiding.
Little girls develop language skills and small motor skills more quickly than little boys. Little girls are more relational than little boys. They want to spend time talking and sharing. They will spend hours in make-believe conversations between dolls, shoes, or whatever they can find. Inanimate objects become personalities with a multitude of discussions.
These little girls spend time trying to get the attention of their caretakers. They want to know if they are worth anything to someone. They want to know if they are seen and appreciated. Parents are required, or the little girls would like for them to be required, to stop, look at them, and listen to what they have to say. This means they have a relationship with someone. This means they are important enough to receive individual attention. If they do not receive it they begin to hide.
When the little girls get older they encounter many people are not interested in them. They are not focused upon. They are not listened to. They are not appreciated. The young girls learn that there are people who do not want to have a meaningful relationship with them. They do not understand why. They think it is their fault. So they continue hiding and learn to hide in new ways.
They have started to learn how to make someone like them. They have given up part of themselves in order to be more like someone else. This will give them what they need. This will give them a relationship.
As young girls become young women they have begun to notice how their own mothers or caregivers relate to other people. They will use those same methods of busyness or controlling they see in order to make themselves more useful and likeable. This is how they will get relationships. Teenage girls learn to deal with boys by watching their mother and father or other role models. They might not like how this is done and may look for adults who model other behaviors.
Most adult women have habits of hiding their true selves to protect themselves from abandonment. These habits can completely change a woman’s true personality. She may become bossy and controlling when she is naturally easygoing. She may become timid and withdrawn when she is really an outgoing sociable woman. Usually these changes are to protect a relationship the woman sees as necessary to avoid abandonment.
The Indestructible Man
Sep 29th
Death, the destruction that awaits every living thing, human beings in particular has troubled the very existence of life in this world. The word, death, send shivers down the spine of every living human being simply because it cuts short our existence here on earth but we should be more scared of living while we are already dead, the situation of someone who’s mind has not been activated to achieve greatness hence, living a life been mesmerized by poverty, lack, shame, failure E.T.C.
Yea, that’s the simplest truth of all times, the person who while living fails to use his/her MIND effectively and efficiently is already dead even before death comes.
A mind left dormant is the worst form of death one can experience while a man who’s mind has been activated and utilized to it’s maximum benefit cannot be destroyed even if death seem to destroy the body carrying his/her mind.
Everything which we use in this world today is a product of the mind both the good and the bad depending on which avenue it is channeled to but for you to be indestructible, you have to channel your mind towards creating good things that will outlive your existence and make people talk about you for good even when have long been dead and forgotten.
Great ideas which gave birth to the great things we use today were products of a mind which was put to an effective use. Some of the individuals whose minds created the things we use today even though they are dead, we still use their mind ideas as if they are still living, hence they still remain indestructible even though death may taken their various bodies.
The mind when put to great use has the power to make you indestructible to poverty, failure, shame, addiction just name them, death inclusive for even though death is a meal which every human being must eat of, a mind which turns out great ideas can live on and be a source of joy to those still existing. Just think about the great minds behind the books you read, those songs you listen to, the cars you drive, those electronic gadgets you use, the ideas that have helped you solve one problem or another just name them, for though some of the people who created these things have been dead yet their mind works been transmuted to all these things mentioned above keeps them ever alive.
So what are you waiting for, unleash that power within, the greatest power ever known to man, THE MIND POWER, so as to have yourself be indestructible to poverty, failure, penury, death E.T.C.
