Posts tagged Self Expression
The Importance of Self-Expression – Teaching Your Kids to Be Themselves
Oct 2nd
Do your kids struggle to express what they feel? Do they have a tendency to hide their emotions? Do you have a difficult time knowing if they’re coping with something or not? Do you wish they were more forthcoming with their emotions?
If you answered any of these questions in the affirmative, believe me, you’re not alone. Many parents struggle to get to know their adolescents only to discover that they hide so much from them. Adolescence is a strange and confusing time for kids. And our culture and media is no help whatsoever.
But more than that, our kids can struggle to make and keep valuable friendships as well when they are tight-lipped about how they feel. So, as parents, it is important for us to try and help them in the best way possible. Here are a few tips that you could try to help your adolescents to be themselves.
1. Always allow your adolescents to say what’s on their mind by inviting them to express how they feel about different things. This will invite them to be themselves when they’re around you.
2. When your daughter or son is angry, don’t stop him or her from expressing how (s)he feels. Let them scream his or her frustrations, if (s)he has to. This is very important to his or her emotional self-development.
3. Don’t be afraid of raw emotions. If your adolescent is goofy, don’t put it down or undermine how (s)he is feeling. Instead, accept those emotions and even be encouraging.
4. Create an environment of love and encouragement for your adolescent. Never put your son or daughter down for expressing his or her real feelings. Instead, lovingly listen to what (s)he has to say with your whole heart.
5. Always have times to talk to your adolescent about his or her true feelings. Turn off the television, and listen to your adolescent without interruptions. This will help your teen to gain the confidence (s)he needs to mature emotionally.
So, allow your adolescents to express themselves when they are around you. Try to encourage that they not always criticize themselves for feeling a certain way. Instead, encourage them to be themselves as much as possible.
Silence Negative Self Talk Forever
Aug 26th
Do you know that most people walk around with a chorus of negative voices sounding off in the back of their minds causing a great deal of confusion, distraction, loss of resolve, self doubt, lack of focus and concentration, indecisiveness, loss of energy and enthusiasm, reduced confidence and paralysis to name a few? Do you know that negative “self talk” is actually not coming from the “self” (i.e. from you) at all? Do you know that it comes from unwelcome intruders that have hijacked your mind and are also trying to take control of your life? Does this sound shocking or hard to believe? Do you know that “your” skepticism is actually “not” yours but is a self protective device these intruders employ to get you from ever questioning their presence inside of you? Finally do you know there is a way to completely silence those unwelcome intruders for good? How does one do that you ask?
Those negative voices originate from a constantly playing audio tape that emerges from negative memories of past experiences stored in the subconscious mind. Many have referred to this as early conditioning and it corresponds to all of the negative messages one has received and recorded within. Many of these messages get triggered whenever an event in one’s current life in any way resembles the old past event(s).
So, for instance, if one experienced a failure of sorts in one’s past that was painful the internalized voice will be programmed to convey a message of fear whenever taking such risks again. Now some might “think” this to be a good thing but if one looks at the consequences of this they will readily experience a sense of limitation that blocks the flow of their creativity, self expression, spontaneity, and chances of achieving a fulfilling and expansive life.
Now since many of those voices reside outside of one’s conscious awareness they therefore remain outside of one’s control. That means they can erupt at any time without notice or invitation only to disrupt one’s clarity and peace of mind. As I’m sure you can see this is highly undesirable. The only way to take control of these inner voices is to banish them from with in for good.
In order to do that they and their negative memory roots must be brought to consciousness and permanently erased much like one erases outdated computer programs from one’s hard drive. There is now a new powerful coaching process that does just that.
So if your interest has been peaked and you have been searching for a way to take your mind back then you may wish to visit the web site below where you can learn more about this process, request a free e-copy of my book or request a free introductory telephone consultation that will begin to give you an experience of what it feels like to be the master of your mind.
