Posts tagged Resentment
How to Be Happy – Practice Forgiveness Daily
Sep 3rd
When I conduct seminars and I mention to the audience that forgiveness is an act that should be practiced daily most of the participants in the audience say “I have already forgiven the person or people who have hurt me”. I get that type of response a lot because it is a common notion to believe that forgiveness is a one time event.
If You Are Emotionally Scarred You May Need to Practice Forgiveness
The most common types of events that require forgiveness are the big events which have occurred in your life and as a result has left you emotionally scared. Such events that require forgiveness are: forgiving your Dad because he was not around to teach you how to ride your bike while you were growing up, forgiving your spouse because your relationship did not turn out the way that you had hoped or forgiving someone who may have hurt you physically or emotionally in the past.
It is true that you should work towards forgiving the people who have hurt you in the past in order to release the attached negative emotions which may be hindering you from moving forward and living your best possible life now. Although you should forgive the big events in your life, you should also be aware that forgiveness is a daily act as well.
How Do You Know If You are Holding on to Negative Emotions?
You may be surprised to know that you can accrue a build up of negative emotions during the course of a day just by holding on to the little things. Major indicators that you are holding on to negative emotions are you are cranky all of the time, you are irritable and you find fault in almost every thing.
6 Possible Scenarios That Require Daily Forgiveness
1.You may need to forgive your manager because they assigned you an assignment that you do not agree with and now you are carrying the Spirit of Resentment.
2.You may need to forgive your spouse or partner because he or she did not call you at the appointed time, he or she was late picking up the kids, or your significant other forgot to kiss you before leaving the house. As a result of that incident you went through the entire day feeling neglected.
3.You many need to ask for forgiveness because your children left their room messy and a “messy room” is your trigger. Now you are walking around disgusted because you cleaned the room or you are waiting in disgust the entire day for your child to come home so that they can clean their room.
4.You may need to ask for forgiveness because your neighbor’s pet pooped in your yard and they did not clean up the mess. As a result you thought negative thoughts about your neighbor and their pet the entire day.
5.You may need to ask for forgiveness because someone cut you off in traffic, because the person who you were driving behind traveled ten miles below the speed limit or because someone took your parking space when they knew that you were waiting to park your vehicle in that spot. In each of these scenarios you mentally made unkind remarks about the person or you may have even verbalized your feelings.
6.You may need to forgive the person who you ran across today that had a “BAD ATTITUDE”. In this case you may also need to forgive yourself because you personalized their comments and now your feelings are hurt.
Practice Forgiveness at Bedtime
In order to release all of the negative emotions that you have accrued throughout the day you should get in to the habit of practicing forgiveness each night before you go to bed. You can practice forgiveness simply by identifying the event and saying “I release you”. Remember when you release the event of that day, you should not be reminded of it the following day.
If you are not aware of the negative emotions that you are holding on to, you should ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you who you need to forgive and what events you need to forgive. When you practice recognizing the negative emotions that you are holding on to and then release them each night you free yourself to have a fresh start the following day.
Rumination Creates Ruination
Aug 16th
Do you ruminate about resentments, discontent, angst, hurt, worry and sadness? When you ruminate about the negative things you are keeping the past negative experiences alive and also attracting new negative experiences.
Whatever transpires, that pushes your buttons or causes you to become reactive you can change it in the moment. There is a Chinese proverb, ‘If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape 100 days of sorrow.’ You can bring compassion into any moment. From this perspective you know that you will receive 100 days with a more positive outlook, if you bring in patience and let go. Conversely, if you continue to react – ruminate – you will bring 100 days of sorrow into your life.
What are you holding – resentment, discontent, angst, hurt, worry and sadness? How long have you held these feelings? The longer you hold them, the more difficult it is to root them out. It is like these feelings have taken on a life of their own. Or it might seem that that is just the way life is. Let me be the first person to tell you, that is not true. The Universe holds happiness, joy and all things good for everyone, not just some. It is right here, right now. You need to look, listen and trust.
If you are unable to ‘let go,’ of something, there is a reason for it. The emotional wound that is the original source of what you are holding on to needs to be processed and healed. Once the original source of the negative emotion is healed, you can ‘let go,’ of it. In order to heal you might need professional assistance.
Counseling, psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, behavioral therapy will assist you in learning to cope better. The most effective process is using Hypnosis. Hypnosis has been proven to heal at the root cause and cellular level more quickly and more effectively for all emotional, spiritual and intellectual issues.
