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You Can Train Yourself to Be Happy
Oct 14th
Human beings are born with emotions. Even newborn babies have their ability to express their emotions by smiling, laughing, and crying. Emotions from newborn babies are fresh, innocent, and admirable. They are straight to express their emotions to anybody and are not afraid of doing so. As babies grow, they encounter many things, good or bad. They learn how to maneuver their emotions for their favor. When they want their parent to buy them a toy, they beg, first, pout then, and cry if not satisfied.
At the same time, they begin to build a wall around them not to reveal their real sentiment. Young children, looking forward to a birthday gift, may be disappointed, because they are not getting something they wanted. They learn that their disappointment is big if their expectation is too much. They begin to control their emotion in the sense that they do not over-joy, not to be badly disappointed.
As they grow, it is inevitable to develop negative emotions. They may think, when they are happy, that they should be careful not to be over-joyful, because they know they might be disappointed if they are over-joyful. It seems that people become more negative than younger days, as they grow. As one gets old, he tends to believe that he was happier in his younger age. This seems to be the mechanism to cause negative sentiments.
Some people develop resentment, cynicism, skepticism, and depression. Instead, there are people who are always cheerful and happy. One may wonder why those people can be happy all the time. It may be their nature. They might have been born that way. Instead, however, they might have trained themselves to be happy instead of unhappy.
Even experiencing same occasion, one feels grateful, the other feels sad. A soldier, who lost his arm in a war, could be depressed by his loss. It is quite understandable. He could be, instead, however, glad he did not die in fighting, all because he lost his arm and sent back to hospital. Why does this difference happen? The ones who could be happy and grateful for the same occasion, which they experience, tend to train themselves to be glad and happy, consciously or unconsciously.
In the movie “The Matrix”, Mophius explained to Neo that the feeling is only an electric signal which brain receives to feel. If one has negative circuit, he feels negative. If the other has positive circuit, he feels positive. Human beings are so well-built system that we can repair or rebuild our circuit in the way we want. If one trains his mind to feel negative, he becomes negative. If he teaches his head to respond positively, he drives him to be happy and positive person.
The training to make one happy person is quite simple. One can keep trying to take a look at the bright side of things. Every cloud has a silver lining. In one’s saddest time or worst experience, one can pick something, which he can be grateful. It is easy to write this way, however. It is a different story if one can really do it. Again turning to the movie “The Matrix”, it is as Oracle told Neo that knowing the path is different from walking the path.
The effective method of this training is to write “Gratitude List”. If one keeps diary, he can use his diary to try this method. At the end of a day, we can open our favorite diary book and write about happy occasions we had on that day. One or two would be okay, but you can consider as many as possible. You need to think seriously what made you glad and happy. You may be able to use your PC or Blog, but some advised that hand writing is the best. In this way, your mind will be trained to look for happy matters and feel happy about whatever comes to your life.
Love Energy – Scientific Versus Spiritual Analysis of the Flow of Love Energy
Oct 9th
When I began the study of love energy, I approached it like other physical laws. I searched for energy that follows precise unchanging patterns that are qualitative and quantitative and which are subject to precise measurement.
I found no such study related to the laws of flow of love energy in scientific investigation. Perhaps I did not search deeply enough in the scientific literature; but to the best of my knowledge, this has not been scientifically studied and quantified.
An odd thing did begin to happen however. I began to receive information during the night regarding this mysterious energy, and that information proved to have validity.
Later I discovered it matched what is found in Scriptures and is regarded as unchanging truth. For this reason, this essay on love energy necessarily contains more biblical references than references to anything in the known scientific world.
It is my hope that this will stir the interest of scientists. Science is open exploration, and the findings regarding love point in the direction of the existence of precise physical laws that are qualitative and quantitative. It also is my hope that the biblical references do not cause some readers to negate the important findings regarding origin and mechanisms, treatment and prevention of serious mental and emotional disorders. Similarly, it is hoped that reference to teachings related to one religious discipline do not cause persons of another faith to negate the analysis.
When I programmed the dream to learn what to do to enhance spiritual growth, the answer was that I had to achieve total forgiveness and be slow to anger. That dream was followed by four weeks filled with the most outrageous situations I ever encountered. Coincidence? I doubt it. We are forever being taught.
It is hard to imagine the harm caused by bitterness, resentment, and non-forgiveness. Christ said it is just as great a sin to have the thought as it is to commit the act. Can you imagine how much of our life force is lost by holding on to angry thoughts? Many healers claim it is impossible to heal without first achieving forgiveness of others.
This translates into only love energy directed outward. If you express a certain amount of love, and an equal amount of anger/bitterness/non-forgiveness, what is your net outflow? How does that benefit you? How much positive energy are you accumulating? How bright is your aura? How lasting is your fountain of youth? How secure is your soul? Loving means reaching out to all people-not just to family. Christ noted that even the tax collector can do that, and therefore it is not to our credit.
We often hear it said that we must love the self first. This has great popular appeal and people are quick to endorse it, but it is the wrong direction of flow of love energy. Whenever I hear a preacher utter those words, I quickly retort with “Yes, and love God second.” It takes a while before they can collect their thoughts and reflect on this. It is true that we should not hold anger toward ourselves, along with self-blame and self-condemnation.
When we distinguish between the flesh and the spirit, then like Paul, we can identify with the higher calling and disparage the needs of the flesh. When we make that distinction, then we can dislike our wrong actions and wrong thoughts because we identify with and cherish the Spirit within.
Love your neighbor as yourself probably means do for your neighbor as you would do for yourself. So the positive love energy may go out, but if it is directed back to the the self it is need or desire, not love. Negative energy must not be sent out, but may a person receive the pain and suffering of others?
I learned of one discipline where persons picture sending love and healing to the whole world with each outward breath and receiving the pain and suffering of the world with each inward breath. Before jumping to the conclusion that this is a sick concept, do we not know someone else who reportedly took on all the ills of the world, all the sin and all the sickness and suffering of mankind for all time?
And did He not say we must follow Him? Give love, and receive the suffering of others. Is this what Mother Theresa did? Through her loving kindness, she took their suffering and their grief.
This formula is like the laws of physics. If there is equal energy going in two opposite directions at once, nothing is accomplished. There is no positive net outflow of energy for our fountain of youth. Notice that now practically the whole world is moving in opposite directions.
Like creates like. Love creates love. Hatred creates more hatred. Bombs create more and bigger bombs. Where is the endpoint? We read in Psalms: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger,” And in Proverbs we find “By long forbearance and calmness of spirit a judge or ruler is persuaded, and soft speech breaks down the most bonelike resistance.”
Along with the fountain-of-youth vision was the awareness that this same fountain is available to flow through anyone. From ancient times, there are tales of persons searching the far corners of the earth for this elusive fountain of youth, never realizing it flows from within each person, as long as he or she loves with no regard for anything in return.
Simultaneous with this awareness was the realization that as soon as you want to live forever, you shut off the flow-because wanting to live forever is energy flowing in the opposite direction. You can want to teach forever or to serve forever, but as soon as you want to live forever, your attention or energy moves back to the self.
