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4 Things To Avoid To Boost Your Confidence
Sep 27th
Positive thoughts tend to stimulate while negative thoughts tend to depress. There are many harmless habits we have that could potentially hurt our confidence by affecting our self esteem due to the negativity it brings to us and the reluctance of friends to hang around us. Below are some things we do that tend to erode our confidence and how to avoid them.
Being Too Modest
Competing
Talking Behind Peoples Back
Not Doing It Now
Being Too Modest
A little modesty actually is a confidence booster, but when you are always putting yourself down or constantly dismissing praise you will be robbing yourself off that little boost you get from saying some difficult task you just managed to finish wasn’t that bad, that you’ll do it again. As long as you sound appreciative when people compliment you, they will not take it in bad faith.
Competing
Too much of everything as they say is bad. If you are always in a competing mode, people will tend to keep away from you because you are always on the aggressive side. You basically will be taking away the fun in doing normal stuff that people just do for fun. A good strategy to focus on when doing things with people is try not to be a winner take all, but to be a team player and a participant. If you are into competitive sports where the best man or woman wins, then you can unleash the full force of your competitive spirit.
Talking Behind Peoples Back
Sitting together with your friends and talking about other people could be a fun and exciting pastime. But, when you are constantly talking behind peoples backs you will become known as a gossip. People will not feel comfortable around you and will always wonder what you say about them when they are not there.
Equally, your self confidence around people will also take a hit, you become insecure and then wonder what they are saying about you too. To avoid this and keep gossiping out of conversations, stop initiating any type of personal stories about people and try and say something positive about people your friends are talking about. This way, it can slow down the person spreading the gossip as they become aware of the negativity they are spewing.
Not Doing It Now
Always putting things off for later could easily become a confidence downer, because you might eventually forget to do it and will appear to be playing catch up all the time. Do not procrastinate. Anything worth doing is worth doing now. Manage you time well by breaking down tasks to small bite sizes and tackling them as soon as possible. This way you do them in small bits you can accomplish and therefore will be able to finish.


