Posts tagged Psychology
Life Lives in Questions, Death Lives in Answers, Life in A New Consciousness
Sep 29th
The whole world wants to have answers. We get rewarded for having the answer. We get to be right, be smart, or feel important. And there we stay or accumulate more answers.
This is a knowledge filled world, so it demands answers. The value is in the answer. You get money or you get prestige. Of course, most new inventions require an openness to see possibilities, but inventions are built on previous knowledge. I am speaking here of the psychology of our minds, and what happens in the mind that is looking only for answers.
In the psychological, questions create openness, not money, and it is only an open mind that can experience life wholly and completely. We do not realize that death lives in answers, and that life lives in questions. You die in the answer because there are no more questions. Questions create a space to discover something new. ?
The answer is always in the question, and the next question is always in the answer. Actually we do not have a true answer unless there is another question included in an answer. To find the new question in the answer, is to have a complete life experience-the experience of life and death in one movement. To have an answer without seeing the ensuing question is to live in darkness, just in the death part of life. ?If you can question your answer to anything, not making the answer right or wrong, but taking the answer and find the new question in it, life will be continually new.
For example, if you are feeling down, and you say, “I’m depressed,” that is the first step in healing your depression.
You have spoken the truth of it. Then out of that truth spoken, you need to discover the question which might be “what is causing my depression?”? From the ensuing answer you will find the next question. If at any time, you come up with an answer without an ensuing question, you are likely to slip back into depression, back into the death of answers.
Generally, people find it difficult to live in this manner, for it is against all that we have learned and been taught. Krishnamurti talked about living in the unknown, and more recently, Eckhart Tolle spoke about the new, but you cannot have the unknown or the new without the death of the old. It is impossible. Two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. One dies; then the other is born. Death and birth are the cycle of life.
You can experience the new when you are able to find the question in the statements you make on a day to day basis. It is not difficult, but it does require actually doing it as you walk along in your life. ?This manner of living will take you away from the trap of worry, stress, and all the other problems we humans have brought upon ourselves. You will no longer seek answers from outside yourself. ?They are there for you-there to be discovered inside the question/ answer/question/answer.
The age-old advice of know thyself or look within is the action of asking questions of yourself. And the place you find to question yourself is in your own answers, otherwise known as your beliefs.
Is it possible that when you know nothing, you know everything?
Discover with a new consciousness.
How to Rapidly Become Happy
Sep 8th
How can you be happier more of the time, no matter what your circumstances?
How does one person manage to be up and going for it day after day, and others just can’t quite get it together? They’re always negative. They’re always down. They’re always grumpy. They’re always feeling tired. Why?
Well, it really is a choice more than anything else. There are only 4 ways known to medicine and psychology that emotions are created. Of these 4 ways, unless there’s something #1 physiologically wrong with you (first way), or #2 you’re brain damaged, or #3 you are chemically imbalanced, then it’s #4 what you’re thinking, your self-talk and mental images.
To become outrageously happy most of the time you need to focus on what you can do something about, on the solutions, instead of focusing on what you can’t do anything about, or the problems. Happiness really comes from positive self-talk. 65%-75% of the time, happiness is from a positive thinking pattern. It’s from giving yourself a primary focus on things you can do something about. It’s a choice, and you make that choice moment to moment, every day
About six months ago, there was a gentleman who was referred to me by his doctor for severe depression. He was an executive for a major company, and he had been laid off. He had not been able to find work for almost a year. Anti-depressants didn’t seem to be working, nothing he tried seem to help.
When he began working with me, one of the things that immediately stood out, was that he was continuously focused on the bad. He focused on the fact that he couldn’t find interviews. And when he did find the interviews, he felt so desperate to get the job that the interviews were lousy.
He had totally forgotten to think about all the positive aspects of his life.
He had a great relationship with his wife. He had wonderful children who were happy and healthy and they loved school. They liked doing things with the family. His health was superb overall, except he was depressed. He was physically strong and healthy. He was brilliant. He was regularly learning new things. The guy had a lot going for him. But he forgot about all of that.
He spent all of his time focused on what wasn’t working. “I can’t find a job. We need money.” Desperation. It caused him huge stress and lots of problems.
The first thing I had him do was to begin to focus on what he could do something about, his thinking patterns. And when he began to change his choice of focus, suddenly, life began to be a little better. His depression began to lift. His wife said he began to be more like his old self. He began to be more energetic, and he and his children had more fun playing together.
He had an interview set up for a new job. When going in there, instead of going in depressed and desperate, he had worked on his attitude. He went in positive, telling himself, “I might get it, I might not. But, I believe I can make a positive impression on these people. This would be good for me and good for them.” He went in with a proactive, powerful mindset.
Guess what? They hired him on the spot at more money than he was making prior to getting laid off!
After they hired him, his boss said the primary reason they hired him was that they wanted somebody on their team who was as positive and proactive as he was. They said his demeanor, the way he carried himself, and his positive attitude was exactly what they needed to take their company up the next step.
He was that man. But he had stopped focusing on the positive, and started focusing on what he didn’t have instead of what he did have. We each have that choice.
Every moment, every day, you make that choice. You can either focus on the “good stuff” in life and what you have, or you can focus on the bad stuff and what you don’t have. When you focus on what you don’t have, you’ll have less. Focus on what you do have; the world will give you more. The universe supplies all kinds of things to you. It’s your choice of focus.
Make everyday a positive focus. Be proactive. Take steps and each one can help move you closer to your ultimate goal, to the things you want to attain in your life. You can have whatever you want-better relationships, improved health, more money, better lifestyle, you can have it all. You can transform your life.
The Best of Success to You, Dr Larry Iverson.
