Posts tagged Positive Thinking
You Can Conquer Your Feelings of Hopelessness
Aug 21st
Have you ever felt hopeless in your life? Feelings of hopelessness arises when you start entertaining thoughts like saying these: “What’s the use of trying?” “I’ll never be happy in my life.”, “Nothing will ever work out.”, “The whole world is against me, it’s hopeless.”
These feelings of hopelessness is much more aggravated when you began to isolate yourself and refuse to see your friends and those people who may try to help you and connect with you.
First thing to realize is, no matter how hopeless you may feel, there are still things you can do right now, to bring you out of the sad territory. Recurrent thoughts like, “what’s the use in trying? There’s no hope anyway” makes you not doing anything about your life that’s why you feel even more hopeless.
But why not doing something different about your situation? make a decision that perhaps, you’re wrong about your presumptions that you’re hopeless. Remember, you’ve been wrong before, and this may not be different after all. Then decide to do something about it; begin by taking things into positive, thinking like, “maybe there’s a better side to this.” You try to do things you don’t want doing at the moment which could probably make you feel better (hanging out with friends, exercising, listening to more upbeat music) I know this may be quite challenging, but prove to your hopelessness that it’s wrong and that things are okay now.
You might as well give up on some negative mindset which never works: complaining, whining, taking things personally, constant worrying, etc. Each time you do any of these, tell yourself that it never works. Instead, try some other stuff which may work like, increasing your tolerance, be more accepting, etc.
Next thing you may want to consider is that just because one area of your life deemed hopeless, everything is will also crumble down. That’s not the way to transform your thoughts; there must be some areas of your life worth being happy about. There are still some things you can change and worth taking time to see its beauty.
Stop saying that “you can’t live without…” Because surely, you’ve lived even before that lover in your life, even before that job, even before having that dream car etc., you will live again–just like you always do.
3 Real Secrets to Happiness
Jan 23rd
We all know that money can’t buy happiness … but sometimes we act as if we’d be happier with a little more money. We’ve been conditioned to want to be wealthy (even when we know some wealthy people who aren’t happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we’ll have the good life.
But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad thing is that it could take us decades of pursuing wealth and luxury items before we realize this.
So what will bring us happiness? Luckily, it’s three things that don’t cost a thing. These three things have been proven by research — surveys of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are.
Here they are, the Three Secrets to Happiness:
- Good relationships. We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.
- Positive thinking. I’m obviously a big proponent of positive thinking as the best way to achieve your goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too. Optimism and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life. Action steps: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of “I can’t” think “I can”. It may sound corny, but it has worked for me, every time.
- Flow. This is a popular concept on the Internet these days — the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge. Action steps: Find work that you’re passionate about. Seriously — this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you’re passionate about. Turn off the TV — this is the opposite of flow — and get outside and do something that truly engages you.
You’ve been given the Three Secrets to Happiness. Don’t waste them!
