Deeper understanding of love brings forth new therapeutic applications. This includes the recognition that love can be transferred through voice alone.
It is said that anxiety is contagious, and persons nearby become restless. The same holds true for depression. One person can cast a shadow over an entire room. Similarly, peace, joy, and serenity are contagious. They can be transferred from one person to another, but rarely do we encounter a person who exists in total love.
Fortunately, this love, peace, and tranquility can be transferred through a recording of a holy person; and this has a powerful impact on the listener. It is critical that the person listens with eyes closed. This shuts out as much as 75 percent of external stimuli and eliminates a large portion of internal stimuli as well, so the person is listening with far greater attention. The recordings serve as an infusion of love, which neutralizes both anxiety and depression. Some of the recordings proved more effective in twenty minutes of listening than two months of antidepressant medication.
Through greater understanding of love energy and applying it in our own daily lives, we can sort through each thought, word, feeling, action, and put it on the scale to determine love versus need. By “need,” I mean desire. This is most useful in psychotherapy. If a person is miserable, it is because of wanting something. If a husband or wife complains bitterly about the spouse, this has nothing to do with loving the other person, it has only to do with caring about the self and wanting more for the self.
One man, for example, was agonizing over a lady friend who left him. I quickly pointed out that his agony related only to his need for her. If he truly loved her, he might be happy for her that she was doing what pleased her the most. So it was not a great love he was losing, it was a great need. When he recognized that it was need instead of love, he was able to relinquish it without pain.
Enhancing the love energy of a patient is an effective means of increasing the healing process. This holds true for both psychological and physical healing. Nonforgiveness is negative energy directed outward, which is the opposite of love. Without forgiveness, it is impossible to achieve the same level of love or the same degree of healing.
Patients who are injured or who have serious physical illnesses often are focused on themselves and their infirmities. This is the wrong direction of flow of energy, and it neutralizes their flow of love, their life force, their healing energy.
Depressed persons also are focused on the self, and this is the opposite of being in love or loving someone else. This is counterproductive when trying to heal.
Two of the criteria for major depression are
(1) loss of energy and
(2) no interest in anything (anhedonia).
With your current understanding of love energy, the reason for these symptoms should now be obvious: if the flow of the life force is reversed, this neutralizes energy and withdraws interest from the outside world.
Anxiety often accompanies depression and in fact it produces depression. This, too, is understandable through utilizing what you know about the flow of our life force. Fear and anxiety relate to conscious and unconscious worries about “what’s going to happen to me?” This is energy moving inward which produces unhappiness and depression. This is the opposite of love, the opposite of energy directed out to others. This is why tranquilizing agents reduce depression. They reduce fear and anxiety, and this reduces the amount of attention and energy focused back to the self. Alcohol is not included as a tranquilizing agent for this purpose because it is the most powerful of all depressants. It also can produce terrible insomnia.
After many years of trying to unravel the mysteries of this invisible love energy and in trying to compare the outward versus the inward flow of positive energy and the outward versus inward flow of negative energy, I realize these are precise laws of physics that govern the outcome and that they are qualitative and quantitative.
I have ?noted that, and as a general rule, people are capable of accepting only as much as they can give. Have you noticed persons who have difficulty accepting a gift or a dinner invitation? Compare their ability to give, to the same ability in those who have no problem at all accepting anything you offer. The more we are able to give, the more we are able to accept the gifts of others.
This formula applies in still another way. When parents truly have not withheld love from their children, the children are delighted to help them in their old age. They give back with joy. When such was not the case, when children were not treated with love, the children might feel they ought to help their parents in their old age; but for them, it is a monumental task because deep down they resent doing anything for the parent. They were not taught to love through loving example, and their unconscious minds have an awareness of this imbalance. This is why some delight in helping parents while others struggle and do so out of a sense of guilt. In this way the deeds of the parent are passed on from generation to generation.
For happiness and spiritual development, the children still must forgive and develop their own ability to love, even though they did not receive the same. It is critically important to learn to look beyond our own feelings that were hurt by others and reach out to help even the very ones who hurt us. Some might say, especially those who have hurt us.