Posts tagged Negativity
Who Is Influencing Your Life?
Oct 28th
It is the statement that used to make you cringe as a teenager. The one mom use to always use when she disagreed with your choice of friends. But does the statement hold true? Someone asked me today about my thoughts on why it is important to surround yourself with successful people. My first thought was, “What classifies success?” The truth is, it doesn’t matter. Everyone has a different definition of success. What is important is not losing your passion for what you love. It is important to continue to strive toward your goals and to never stop dreaming dreams. So many peoples lives have become stagnant. It isn’t that these people don’t have dreams, they have lost their burning desire to attain those dreams. A lot of what causes this is the inability to surround themselves with people who motivate and challenge them. Surrounding yourself with people who motivate and challenge you, keep you on a course to achieving your goals. It holds you to a sense of accountability.
Here’s another way I like to think of it. Picture a group of coals when they are heating your food. As a group, the coals will draw heat from one another, keeping them hot for a long period of time. But if you remove a single coal from the group, it will grow cold in just a matter of minutes. The same is true for us. If you surround yourself with people who share your same beliefs and passion for life, you are more likely to attain true happiness. You stay motivated because as a whole you draw strength from one another. I once read that “confidence is contagious”. If that is true, then so is negativity and lack of motivation. Negativity is so strong that is can literally ruin people’s lives just has fast as you blink an eye.
“The people you associate with and share ideas with have a major influence on how you choose to act upon or not act upon your dreams.” So doesn’t it seem easier to accomplish what you set forth to do when you surround yourself with people who are also striving for more than a stagnant existence?
Change Your Life In Seven Days – Find Your Self Confidence
Oct 15th
Have you ever wondered if someone who appears to be totally confident on the outside, is really as insecure as you are? Most people lack confidence. The ones that are in your face confident are usually relying on their Pretend self. Pretend Self is one of three selves that we carry around.
First of all there is the Pretend self. This identity will fake it until you make it to manage life obstacles. Then, there is the Negative self. This identity focuses on all your negative habits and projects a detrimental image of the self. Lastly, there is the Authentic self. The Authentic self is the tender person you truly are at the core.
Because folks fear not fitting in, many people hide behind the Pretend self. It hurts to be judged by others. If you fit in, you won’t be judged. It takes a lot of energy to live the Pretend self and over time, you forget how to be an Authentic person.
When someone criticizes you, it is the Negative self that will latch onto those words. This self starts a running loop of negativity that constantly plays in the background. Particular triggers will activate the Negative Self. If someone calls you a name, you become upset. Your Negative self believes that you represent that remark. “Any negative traits you identify are not really yours – they belong to your negative self-image, and were programmed into to you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go,” states Paul McKenna in Change Your Life in Seven Days.
On the other hand, Authentic self is your core person (minus the negative and fake parts). This is the self that has dreams and aspirations, the one that feels it’s heart swell with so much love when people you cherish are nearby. This self is powerful and unstoppable when allowed to dominate your actions. It is easy to attain once you recognize the negative and false dialogues running through your head.
