Posts tagged Motives
10 Of My Own Quotable Quotes – Part 69
Jan 15th
1. It is better to err on the side of activity than lounge on the quiet side of passivity with a huge list of pending things to be done. It is more important to make a mistake while sober than suffer consequences for decisions made while in a trance or under the influence of substances that scuttle judgment.
2. The world has never been changed by sharp observers. Those who have seen and made decisions to act on the ills, inconveniences and injustices that mankind faced have truly changed the world. World changers have a habit of getting their hands and body dirty.
3. There are no secrets ever hidden to success. Success is in the detail. When you can ensure that you leave nothing to chance, planning and acting on the plan at every given opportunity, you will be amazed how successful you suddenly become.
4. It is very easy to find blame in other things and not accept your involvement in the mess. No one wants a legacy of failure naturally. However, if we can stand and be corrected, we will live to enjoy life through lessons learned earlier in life. Only a fool despises correction. Realize there is no one who is perfect and such as expectation is not on you either.
5. A leader’s exploits are affected directly by his/her ability to communicate with clarity and precision. Teams thrive on instructions and direction. If a leader is as confused as the followers there will be no end to the chaos that follows.
6. There is no one as dangerous as one with a hidden agenda/motive. Differences in motives usually result in relationships and partnerships breaking. Indeed, two can not walk together long enough when there is no intersections of common ground and agreement.
7. It is futile to desire physical freedom forgetting that mental imprisonment is worse off. When you mind is bound, you can hardly do anything meaningful not matter how free you body is to move around. It therefore places a huge need for self mastery of mental processes to ensure free judgment and decision making. When the mind is free there are no limits to what your body can generate.
8. Judge not a leader’s effectiveness by how many people are following only. The followers could be as blind enticed by promises, naively following like sheep to the slaughter. Judge a leader by the content of his/her personality and quality of the fruit on hand.
9. Correction and rebuke are only effective when applied within the correct time frame and context. Delayed feedback which focuses on personality rather than the issue at hand will be resisted out-rightly. Any correction is treated as an attack hence the need to coat it with positive affirmation.
10. When you have a vivid imagination of the future you can push past any temporary pain. When you affix you gaze to the progressive phase that lingers in the horizon, you will be able to survive anything. It is only those that have a hazy picture of what can be that will lose grip of the thread of determination.
7 Habits of the Highly Confident
Dec 8th
You already know more confidence means a higher level of performance. Studies show that confidence in yourself is the game changer, the one ingredient that makes all the difference in successful venture. (Of course we mean authentic confidence — not that annoying puffery!)
So, after working with so many clients and students with their confidence in public speaking, and this includes mostly self-identified shy people, I’ve come up with a list of the habits you consistently see in highly confident people:?
1. Avidly care for their bodies. It’s not that all highly confident people are model thin, it’s something much deeper. Highly confident people realize that to keep up their high levels of performance, they must take extra care of themselves. You’ll find many of the highly confident people take their nutrition and exercise very seriously.
Exercise, nutrition, and rest are indispensable for mood management…and we all know how ridiculous people can get when they’re irritable simply for burning the candle at both ends, for too long. (Not that I have any personal experience with this.) ;-)
Wearing your exhaustion like a medal of honor is surely a sign your confidence is flagging.
2. Appreciate who they are and what they have. The best way to snap out of negativity is to stop and take a look at what you already have. Highly confident people know they aren’t perfect, but they are also aware that they are already contributing to a better society.
Life is incredible; life is a drag. What are you focusing on?
3. Assign the best possible interpretation of motives to all people and situations. This is a habit, like any other, that has to be deliberately cultivated. It helps you shrug off things people say, or things that happen, that might otherwise throw you off kilter.
Because highly-confident people consistently look for a positive framework through which to view events, other people generally return the favor. This training in looking for the positive slows down that knee-jerk reaction of going off on mental fantasies of disaster.
4. Able to confront early and lightly. This is probably the trickiest but most telling habit. They usually give positive feedback, but when a correction is necessary, highly-confident people say what needs to be said without getting all dramatic about it. And because they take care of themselves, they’re not harboring resentments that can turn a trickle of annoyance into a fatal tsunami.
Having clarity about who you are and what you want is essential to this habit.
5. Ask for help. Highly-confident people don’t have their egos tied to being the lone savior of a situation. Likewise, they realize that people enjoy helping and delight in being asked to contribute. This habit helps avoid overwhelm, another kill-joy tendency.
6. Are acutely aware of their preferences. It’s not that highly-confident people always insist on getting things their way; but somehow, they usually do. When asked where to have lunch, they suggest a place. When asked what they would like to drink or eat, they respond immediately. This awareness sets the foundation for their goal setting, and helps them make better decisions more quickly.
7. Are attractively light-hearted. Highly confident people take their work seriously, but not themselves. That makes them so attractive to others.?
Can you laugh at yourself? That’s a consistent source of joy, thank heavens none of us is perfect!
