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A Fall From Grace – Not Confidence
Oct 6th
It’s easy to buoy up your confidence when you do the right thing and people notice and show appreciation for your ideas and actions. It’s effortless and we get an immediate reward from others that feels great. But there are other times when despite our best efforts things just don’t go exactly as we planned or it’s not as easy to do the right thing. What do you do when you falter?
Recently I was given an award, presented in front of a room full of 400 people at a large conference. As I jogged up to the stage I guess I tried to leap up two steps. It didn’t work. I tripped and fell just as I was taking the stage. Pain shot through my knees. I was mortified; all I could think about was my big butt facing the audience. You could hear a pin drop in the massive ballroom. The president of the company who was presenting the award winced.
Without missing a step, I sprang to my feet, grabbed the microphone from him and breathlessly said, “The only thing I bruised was my ego.” He threw his head back and laughed. The audience laughed. A dumb mis-step turned into a silly moment and it was over. I might have fallen onstage. Maybe I even experienced a brief fall from self-esteem. But I didn’t let it destroy my confidence outside.
Later, people came up and said, “I felt so bad for you. Are you okay?” Not a single person said anything mean-spirited. They might have been thinking those thoughts, but if they did, they politely kept them to themselves. When I spoke the next day, the room was packed, and I got a standing ovation.
There are other times when no one is looking and it’s still important to think about how your actions will impact your confidence level even when no one is looking.
Doing the right thing – even when others don’t notice – will increase your confidence. Last week I was at Starbucks and discovered a wallet with three $20 bills sticking out. Yes, I could’ve used that money. If I put it in my purse and tossed out the wallet no one would have noticed. But it wasn’t the right thing to do. That wallet belonged to someone else. I gave it to the Manager. I knew in my heart that if I didn’t do the right thing I would have a difficult time looking in the mirror for a long time. That would pull down my confidence and who knows what negative impact that could have for years to come.
Be gracious. Be bold. Don’t be afraid to shine when you have the opportunity. And when it’s just you and you have to make a decision to do the right thing – the good always comes back to you pressed down, heaped up and flowing over. You can hold your head up high and know you are a person who comes by your confidence because you deserve it.
5 Ways to Instantly Add More Self-Value
Oct 5th
Increasing your self-confidence doesn’t have to be so hard. Increasing your self-confidence, so you can achieve really amazing results in your life, comes from a place where you have the willingness to do so. It comes from a place of willingness to see your inner value. It is time to let go of the distorted image you have of yourself, and free your authentic self.
Knowing your self-value comes from within and not from what the outside world has determined. She looks within rather than placing blame on anyone or anything. She takes a ‘no excuses’ approach to creating the life she wants and invests in herself without guilt.
Becoming a confident woman will make you feel happier, more secure and extra attractive. You will start to attract anything you desire in your life with ease.
When you feel confident and really great in your own skin, you will soon find everything begins to flow easily and effortlessly into your life.
1. Be 100% Honest with Yourself. YES! No more denial. It’s really easy to delude yourself, isn’t?
You will save yourself a lot time, pain and money be being 100% honest with yourself. When you’re honest with yourself all you do is gain more – happiness and freedom. You’ll find the answer to those burning questions. Everything you need to know is inside you and the way you access these answers is through your truth.
Get quiet and ask yourself the questions. Trust your intuition and your answer will appear…Your answers are in you already.
Ask your higher self, “Am I being real with myself?” “Does this bother me or not?” “Is this action hurting or helping me?”?
2. Accept Full Responsibility for YOUR Life. This is one of the greatest ways to demonstrate honor and value to yourself and the universe.
One of the best ways I know how to feel empowered is to accept full responsibility for your life.
If you don’t like the results in your life, don’t waste your precious energy blaming others. Add more value to your life instead and take full responsibility. When you do this, you get connected to good, clean energy that is essential for taking actions to make lasting change.
This is your life. Take responsibility for it. You attract to you what you put out to the world through your level of self-value. Action or inaction comes from the level of self-value you hold for yourself. You will find that when you take responsibility for your life, doors will open and you’ll be able to live out the dream of YOUR life.
In accepting responsibility, you show up for your life in a completely different way and reflect the value you hold on the inside to the outside world.
3. Don’t Take Things Personal. If this is a hard one for you, please read or re-read The Four Agreements, Chapter #3.
The reason you’re taking what someone said as personal is, at some level, you are agreeing with and it’s not even true! This is why it bothers you so much. LET IT GO!
Taking things personally is poison; it will keep you stuck, wasting time worrying and analyzing.
Please do yourself a favor, stop eating others emotional garbage. Commit to not taking things personally. You are setting yourself up to suffer and it is robbing you of your self-confidence.
4. Be Clear and Confident. Who are you? And, what is your authentic image?
Write down five qualities you like about yourself. Then write down one quality you want to improve. In doing so, you’ll gain the clarity you need to build more confidence.
When you truly KNOW yourself, you’ll find yourself speaking more clearly, knowing exactly what you want and you will go after it by doing it. Once you get clear on who you are and really liking yourself, you’ll find confidence follows. You become unstoppable!
5. Stop the “I’m Not Good Enough!” ‘Nuff Said! STOP IT! Comparing yourself to others? Obsessing about flaws that only you see? Right? You know what I mean here
Stop analyzing your inside to everybody outside – dangerous. Get off the scale, off Facebook, turn the TV off, and get into your life. Don’t call your girlfriend and ask her “what is wrong with me?” Nothing! This is only fueling the false beliefs you are holding and will keep you stuck.
Instead, if you are not feeling good enough, take ACTION. Do something that fills your soul up and brings worth to your life – HONOR yourself. Go for walk, read a book, take a bath. Then call your girlfriend and meet her fun lunch to celebrate life with her instead of calling her in self-doubt.
Start to feel good and begin to treat yourself like you are more than enough and do this starting NOW! Invest in you! Wake up early to journal, meditate, take care of your body by exercising, having a mental vision for your life and fuel your spirit by doing things YOU love to do. Nourish your body and soul with people and things that only support love.
Soon enough you’ll feel whole in body, mind and soul and will finally feel good enough for yourself and others.
