Posts tagged Mirror
Does Your Appearance Make a Difference?
Nov 18th
“It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearance.”
~Oscar Wilde
I was raised believing “smile, keep your up high and always put you best face on”. We are flooded with products to lose weight look younger and the new age of plastic surgery. It is constantly trying to improve what we think we are not, The other side is not caring, eating what you want and believing substance is the only thing that is important.
What if we take the middle and say yes the way we look is important but not everything. Neatness, healthy teeth, dressing well and paying attention to details absolutely make a difference. If you go into a corporation and you’re wearing jeans instead of a professional look it will make a difference. I believe when you are on the phone or working on your blog we have a different attitude when we feel and look attractive. We know we come across better when we are in the mood of lightness rather then in the mood of anger. Appearance is the non-verbal message that one sees first even through we may be writing or on the phone.
If you were selling your car or your home would you have it look the best it could so it would be attractive and appealing? Appearance is important as long as it isn’t your obsession but your tool to present yourself in the best of light. What does your appearance say about you? How do you want people to see you?
I suggest you begin to pay attention to the image you want to project. It’s okay to be conscious of your appearance and put your best foot forward. Ask yourself the question “How do I want to show up” What do I want my appearance to say about me? How do I feel when I look in the mirror and I love what I’m seeing? You can do that everyday just by paying attention to your appearance. It is the small details that make the difference.
Quick Self Esteem Boosters
Oct 13th
Improving self confidence and self esteem is an ongoing process, and takes courage to look at the deepest parts of your character and understand where self esteem comes from and how to have more of it.
The causes of low self confidence or self esteem need to be identified and addressed. But this takes time and work, so what happens when you are in a rush?!
The self esteem boosters below will give you that instant boost you need at the time you need it, and practised regularly, they will begin to change your underlying beliefs.
1. Do something for someone else. There is nothing like the feeling you get from having an impact on someone. If they smile and say thank-you, so much the better, if they don’t, you can still feel good about yourself. Leave a big tip for a waiter, pick your friends kids up from school so she can have a break, pop in to see your elderly aunt who gets few visitors, cook a favourite meal for your partner. It doesn’t have to be something ground breaking, but as a self esteem booster, this is second to none.
2. Do something for you. Especially if you are run ragged looking after everyone else, are too busy to look after yourself properly or are simply down on yourself and feel you aren’t worth it. Laze in a bubble bath with a good book, take half an hour to get a coffee, relax and watch the world go by, treat yourself to a gourmet lunch. Whatever you always promise yourself you will do but don’t get around to. Do it today!
3. Compliment yourself. Look in the mirror and pick out your best feature (Yes, you do have lots of them), smile and say out loud, ‘Kate, you really do have great skin/eyes/smile/feet/legs/whatever you like about yourself. (Obviously use your own name!!) Then move onto to your skills and actions. ‘Kate, you worked so hard at your workout this morning, did a great job with that report, cooked a delicious dinner, dealt really well with that awkward client etc etc’
Simply smiling at yourself is a great self esteem booster.
4. Talk to someone else. Yes self confidence and self esteem should come from within, but sometimes it gives us a bit boost to hear something nice from someone else. Call your mum, partner, best friend, children, and get a little reassurance from them. When you aren’t feeling great about yourself, it can take the viewpoint of someone you care about to put things in perspective and make you realise you really are rather great!
The road to great self confidence and self esteem is hilly, even when we get to the top of the hill and feel great, there will be the odd day when we don’t feel so great about ourselves.
This is completely normal and we should should get on with things, knowing it is just a blip and we soon be back to our normal selves. However it is good to have some tools to deal with those down days – the self esteem boosters can provide a quick pick me up when you need it.
What do you do when you need a quick self esteem boost? Share your tips with others below
