Posts tagged Men And Women
Subliminal Messages – Top Tips to Become More Confident of Your Body
Sep 23rd
Are you comfortable with your own skin? There are hundreds of men and women who are not. You know, it’s actually normal to sometimes feel bad of how you look like, especially if it forces you to change your lifestyle for the better. For example, if you are overweight, being conscious of how you look like may just force you to exercise and diet.
However, if your insecurity takes on a whole new level and it slowly destructs you or your relationship, it may have to be something you should take control of. A typical example is when you begin suffering from eating disorders.
If you are currently obese or overweight, that is definitely something you should not be proud of as it poses danger into your life. Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean you have to feel bad about your body. Instead, you should love it all the more.
If you are not too confident of how you look like, you may want to keep in mind the following tips:
1. Know the root cause of your insecurity. There are a lot of potential reasons why you are not happy of how you look like, but you need to identify the main source. Some may be pressured to get the same body image they see in magazines. Others may be suffering from an emotional distress. For example, if you have been bullied a lot of times when you’re young, there’s a struggle to look good and impress those who never really believed in you before.
Regardless, know the cause, and you can have a better idea on the next steps to take.
2. Keep yourself healthy. There’s no other way to it really. If you want to be happier with how you look like, then you need to exercise and watch out for your diet. If you are currently battling with your weight, by doing these two simple things, you will learn how to drop off the excess pounds. If not, then you can do them to maintain your weight. Exercising also has a good effect over your emotions. In case you don’t know, if you are too stressed out, you can simply go to any of the exercise machines and sweat it out.
3. Learn to practice visualization or meditation. Meditation helps clear your mind, allowing you to be more focused on your goals or objectives. You can also boost your level of serotonin, which can enhance your mood and kick away depression. In the meantime, it lowers your stress level and cortisol, a type of hormone that’s associated with high cholesterol.
On the other hand, visualization is a technique where you play out scenarios in the mind. Its main purpose is to have an alternative avenue to deal with your inner issues. For example, you can visualize yourself throwing away stones that represent each of your insecurities.
4. Use subliminal messages. You can also use subliminal messages or affirmations. Subliminal messages have a way of changing your thinking patterns. This is because they are embedded into the subconscious, a part of your mind you cannot really control. Once the subliminal messages have been fully accepted, they stay there, just ready to be tapped.
You can do the following exercise: every morning, you can stand in front of the mirror and repeat these affirmations:
I am a beautiful individual.
I love myself.
I have the ability to take care of myself.
The Importance of Nurturing the Self
Sep 23rd
There is one thing every self-made, successful person I’ve ever met has in common. It’s self-confidence. Maybe they started with it. Maybe their confidence grew as they accomplished more and more. They certainly possess it.
Sorry, this isn’t an article about taking a relaxing bubble bath to nurture yourself. Or getting a massage. There aren’t enough bubbles and hot water in the world to make up for crushing a lack of self-confidence. This article is about ways to nurture your self-esteem and confidence so you feel more comfortable in your own skin. That’s better than any expensive moisturizer you can buy.
I have always found human behavior fascinating. Perhaps I should have been a psychologist. Amazed by human behavior, differences between men and women, why women have challenges with marketing and selling, and the intriguing diversity between cultures around the world, I love learning about what makes people tick.
A large percentage of women suffer from a lack of self-confidence. They spend a lifetime feeling “not good enough.” We can blame it on abusive men or parents. But that puts women in a victim role which is a trap. Positive change and developing healthy self-confidence is impossible from a victim point of view.
As a result women spend a lifetime nurturing others while neglecting themselves in an effort to feel better. It’s a breeze building up others and telling them how fabulous they are. We effortlessly support, encourage, motivate and say, “You go, girl!”
But will you say supportive, encouraging, nurturing words for yourself? Or, instead do you utter harsh words about your “failings” under your breath and shrug, “I’m just being honest.”
It is not true. We all have gifts to share. We have all experienced triumph and tragedy. Chances are you have learned more from your failures than from your successes. What do you have to share that can help others? How are you different or unique?
I encourage you to sit down and create five short lists. Answer one question on each list:
-What do I like about me?
-What do others like about me?
-What do I do well?
-What do I enjoy doing most?
-What positive characteristics do people see in me?
Write through the eyes of your best friend. Write through the heart and soul of someone who loves you exactly as you are. Write until you can think of nothing more to add. Then write down two more items before moving on to the next list. Take a couple deep breaths. Honor and nurture yourself by doing this exercise.
Write. Are you:
-Excited about life?
-Outgoing? People love positive-minded people.
?Compassionate are caring?
?A good listener and friend?
-Do you possess the gift of making others feel special?
By writing down the answers to these five questions you will start seeing yourself differently. When you push yourself to come up with a couple more responses, you will discover amazing things about yourself. You are worthy. It’s time to exude the kind of confidence that will move mountains and help you make your dreams come true.
