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“You can have anything you want if you give up the belief that you can’t have it.”

-Dr. Robert Anthony

So many people tell me they can’t do something or better yet they give me excuses as to why they can’t do something. For example, I can’t stop thinking of him/her, I can’t let go, I can’t lose weight, I can’t leave my husband/wife, I can’t quit my job, I can’t find a new job, etc. The truth is that “I can’t” really translates into “I won’t” do something.

It’s a choice you make based on a belief or fear that you’ve convinced yourself is real. And as I said before, many times not doing something is simply an excuse because you think changing is too hard.

I remember when my nephew was little and he was afraid of going down the sliding board. He kept crying and saying, “I can’t, I can’t.” I could see that he wanted to so much but his fear kept him stuck. As crazy as it sounds, he was terrified. He just kept crying and crying.

We all know that he could but he didn’t believe he could, and that belief and his fear kept him stuck “wanting to” but too afraid to try it. When I finally convinced him to sit on my lap and go down the slide with me, he loved it so much I couldn’t keep him off of it!

The thrill of doing something he was afraid of and overcoming that fear opened up a whole new freeing experience for him. Henry Ford said, “If you think you can do a thing, or you think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” Whatever your belief is, it will become your reality.

The Law of Belief states, whatever you believe, you will see. So perhaps you have to dig down and determine if your beliefs serve you or limit you. Belief in its purest form is thought and we all know by now that if you change your thoughts, you can literally change your life.

What are the thoughts that you hold so near and dear that are forming your beliefs? Let’s take this belief: I will never get over him/her. Your thoughts will probably sound something like, I love him/her so much I will never find anyone I love as much, or I can’t stop thinking of him/her, or it is so hard to meet someone and I will go to my grave with this person in my heart, or I am lost without him/her and I am so sad, each day is a burden and on and on.

Now, if this is your thought process, how on earth do you think these kinds of thoughts will make you feel?

Get a grip on what you keep telling yourself about any given situation. Instead of convincing yourself that life will be horrible, take these thoughts and change them to:

- I love him/her so much I will never find anyone I love as much I love him/her. Change to: Things don’t always work out they way we want and I found him/her and I will find someone in the future, it’s not as if they are the only person on earth.

- I can’t stop thinking of him/her.Change to: Of course I will think of them they were a big part of my life, but each day I am getting stronger and each time I think of them I will remember that this too shall pass.

- It’s is so hard to meet someone and I will go to my grave with this person in my heart. Change to: I know many people who have survived breakups or divorce and have gone on to be happy and live again and so will I.

- I am lost without him/her and I am so sad, each day is a burden. Change to: It’s weird not having them around anymore and although I feel sad I know that I will survive this and move on and I WILL be happy again someday soon. No matter what it is you tell yourself over and over again, you’re right!

Don’t allow your thoughts to control you and how you feel, control your thoughts and you will change how you feel. You are the only one who decides what you choose to think about.

Get “can’t” out of your vocabulary. You can do anything you put your mind to when you believe you can!