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Quick Self Esteem Boosters
Oct 13th
Improving self confidence and self esteem is an ongoing process, and takes courage to look at the deepest parts of your character and understand where self esteem comes from and how to have more of it.
The causes of low self confidence or self esteem need to be identified and addressed. But this takes time and work, so what happens when you are in a rush?!
The self esteem boosters below will give you that instant boost you need at the time you need it, and practised regularly, they will begin to change your underlying beliefs.
1. Do something for someone else. There is nothing like the feeling you get from having an impact on someone. If they smile and say thank-you, so much the better, if they don’t, you can still feel good about yourself. Leave a big tip for a waiter, pick your friends kids up from school so she can have a break, pop in to see your elderly aunt who gets few visitors, cook a favourite meal for your partner. It doesn’t have to be something ground breaking, but as a self esteem booster, this is second to none.
2. Do something for you. Especially if you are run ragged looking after everyone else, are too busy to look after yourself properly or are simply down on yourself and feel you aren’t worth it. Laze in a bubble bath with a good book, take half an hour to get a coffee, relax and watch the world go by, treat yourself to a gourmet lunch. Whatever you always promise yourself you will do but don’t get around to. Do it today!
3. Compliment yourself. Look in the mirror and pick out your best feature (Yes, you do have lots of them), smile and say out loud, ‘Kate, you really do have great skin/eyes/smile/feet/legs/whatever you like about yourself. (Obviously use your own name!!) Then move onto to your skills and actions. ‘Kate, you worked so hard at your workout this morning, did a great job with that report, cooked a delicious dinner, dealt really well with that awkward client etc etc’
Simply smiling at yourself is a great self esteem booster.
4. Talk to someone else. Yes self confidence and self esteem should come from within, but sometimes it gives us a bit boost to hear something nice from someone else. Call your mum, partner, best friend, children, and get a little reassurance from them. When you aren’t feeling great about yourself, it can take the viewpoint of someone you care about to put things in perspective and make you realise you really are rather great!
The road to great self confidence and self esteem is hilly, even when we get to the top of the hill and feel great, there will be the odd day when we don’t feel so great about ourselves.
This is completely normal and we should should get on with things, knowing it is just a blip and we soon be back to our normal selves. However it is good to have some tools to deal with those down days – the self esteem boosters can provide a quick pick me up when you need it.
What do you do when you need a quick self esteem boost? Share your tips with others below
Love Energy – To Have Or To Have Not
Oct 8th
Profound truth often is profoundly simple once revealed. Perhaps this is so with our new definition of love. While this law that applies to the flow of love energy appears obvious, usually it remains a mystery throughout life. We start as little children, thinking that when we get what we want, then we will be happy.
Wanting produces tension and a state of discomfort. When we get what we think we want, there is momentary relief of that tension and discomfort. This causes us to believe that satisfying our desire is the route to happiness. But soon we begin to want more, which propels us back into the state of discomfort and dissatisfaction. This wrong concept follows us throughout life. In Eastern disciplines, it is known as the Maya trap; and indeed, it is a trap because it snares many of us from birth to death.
I have often spoke about how people always are trying to get something as a means of finding happiness. I like to described how little children think that when they are big, then they will be happy. When they get candy, then they will be happy. When they start school, then they will be happy. When they get a bicycle, then they will be happy. When they graduate, then they will be happy. When they get a car, then they will be happy. When they find a girlfriend or a boyfriend, then they will be happy. Next, it is when they get into college, then they will be happy. When they graduate, then they will be happy. When they get a job, then they will be happy. When they get married, then they will be happy. When they have children, then they will be happy; when the children are grown and leave home, then they will be happy; when they retire, then they will be happy. Finally they retire, and in six months, they are so bored they go back to work.
Sadly, many never learn that you cannot get happiness; it is the by-product of giving. We have all heard that it is better to give than to receive, but we lose sight of this almost as soon as we hear it.
Some have everything but happiness while others have nothing but happiness. Who has more? Our formula might dictate that the easiest way to become a saint, and enjoy greater peace and happiness, is to care and do for those who have nothing to give in return. By eliminating the possibility of worldly reward, we eliminate the thought and therefore the desire to receive anything in return.
Witness Mother Teresa helping the dying in the streets of Calcutta. They had little or nothing to give in return. While appreciation always is welcome, it is probable she did not even seek that. If appreciation were her goal, she might never have reached such heights.
Having does not preclude happiness, but attachment does. Avoiding ownership removes the possibility of attachment to objects, but there can still be attachment to rituals and even man-made religious practices that are not from scripture.
The closer we approach total love directed outward, with no energy moving back to the self, the brighter our auras become. This is in keeping with the words I heard during the night, “The aura is the edge of the soul.” It makes sense that this is so. When we love, we are more like holy people, and our auras brighten. Could this explain the concept of drawing energy from the soul? Love provides energy. When we do something for someone else, which is love, we are more likely to succeed.
Athletes sometimes perform beyond their capabilities by dedicating an event to a deceased teammate or to a child dying of cancer. Many mothers conquer life-threatening conditions because they have a child who needs them.
It is only when we approach total love, with no attachment to anything, that we approach the incredible fountain-of-youth vision I was given one night, in which a holy man appeared, from whom flowed a beautiful fountain of love energy, depicted as light and extending arm’s length from the body from above the head and flowing downward. This love energy is the life force itself, which likely accounts for the extreme longevity among many of the persons in the Bible from millennia past, and for the longevity anticipated by Christians during the thousand-year period following Christ’s return when total peace and love are to prevail.
