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The Importance of Positive Self Talk
Oct 13th
Self talk occurs all the time. It’s those little conversations people have with themselves. Sometimes the dialogue is positive, and sometimes it’s negative. Positive self talk, or inner dialogue, is one of the best ways to overcome negative situations and to view the glass as half full.
With positive self talk, you can feel more optimistic and positive about life. This requires replacing negative self talk or dialogue with positive self talk. Below are some ways to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. In the following examples of frustrating situations, you can chose to either have positive or negative self dialogue.
•Driving to a job you hate – “It’s not so bad, I only have to be there 8 hours.” “Today will be a good day, I’ll call and old friend at lunch.” “It’s only 3 days until payday.”
•Your child broke his arm at school – “The injury could have been worse.” “I’m so thankful he’s still alive.” “Other kids have had playground injuries that were much worse.”
•You lost money on your stock – “The stock will rise again soon.” “Some people have lost a lot more than me.” “I’ll figure out what went wrong and try again.”
•Your significant other dumped you – “It is better that I know now what he/she was all about.” “I’ll find someone better suited for me.” “It was his/her loss, anyway.” “There are more fish in the sea.”
•You lost your job – “I’ll find a better job.” “Where one door closes, another one opens.” “I’ll find a job I enjoy more.”
Self talk is one of the best ways to help you overcome negativity, and become a more optimistic and happier person. Instead of immediately acting upon the negative in a situation, self talk helps you find the positive in any situation, and concentrate on what you do want, and not what you don’t want. When you practice self talk, overcoming negativity will become a cinch.
4 Tips to Help Raise Self Esteem
Oct 13th
In today’s image conscious society, you need to do all that you can to raise self esteem in yourself and those you love. Oftentimes, you are made to feel inadequate because you do not wear the latest fashions or drive a luxury car. The truth is you are a worthy human being even without those things. If you suffer from low self esteem, here are four things you can do to overcome it.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People: It is unfortunate but many people begin comparing themselves to other people when they are young. Their parents, or other loved ones, will tell them that they are not as good as someone else and that they should strive to be more like them in an effort to get them to improve in behavior or talent.
The problem with this is there will always be people who are better than you at a task, have access to more resources, or are in a better job position. Comparing yourself to others is a self-defeating and unnecessary act. Appreciate your own strengths and good qualities.
Remember Your Successes: Another way you can raise self esteem is to remember when you achieved a goal or had other successes in life. Too often we reflect on the times when we failed and we begin to think that we can do nothing right. The truth is that you have probably had just as many successes in life as you have had failures. Take out a piece of paper and begin writing them down and read them whenever you begin to feel bad about yourself.
Associate with Positive People: Negative people are people who only see what is wrong with the world. If you associate with people who are cynical, pessimistic, and have a bad attitude, you will absorb these traits into yourself. This can lead to judging everything around you as bad including yourself. Instead, associate with positive and supportive people. Their good nature will help you feel better about life and yourself.
Contribute: One of the best ways to improve your self esteem is to make a positive contribution to something. This goes beyond giving money. Volunteering and helping others will help you feel good about the positive difference you are making in other people’s lives. There are plenty of opportunities available. Look around your local area for associations or programs that need an extra set of hands.
It may take a little time before you raise self esteem high enough that it is noticeable. However, with concerted, daily effort you will feel better about yourself before you know it.
