Posts tagged Important In Your Life
Phrases About Relationships – Best Way to Expand Yourself Is Through Friendship
Sep 16th
Are friendships important in your life? I hope so because they give a great deal of value for the effort put into them. They make a richer person, a deeper person, a more well rounded individual, more tolerant, more benevolent. Why? Because you are, thereby, expanding yourself. The more you make the attempt to share relevant ideas and thoughts with those in your circle of friends, the more you expand your circle of influence.
When you spread yourself around, your ideas and your help, the greater the opportunity you have of feeling the flow of power through you.
It is like a water facet. When the water faucet is turned off, nothing flows through it. The faucet cannot have full play of its intended purpose. Just so with yourself; if you are not giving to and helping those in your circle, you cannot give full play to your intended purpose.
When the faucet is turned on, of course, water flows through it. Many things can be accomplished using water. Someone may require a drink of water to be refreshed. Plants in your vegetable garden may require water to keep growing and producing a harvest. Maybe you need to wash your car.
Do you see? When you cut yourself off from those around you, especially in your friends’ circle, you diminish yourself. You make yourself less importance than you can be.
It used to be high school classes that the teachers would say, sometimes, if you didn’t participate, you were not fulfilling your duty to the rest of the class. (Sometimes you were even graded on “class participation.”) In other words, everyone has something to contribute. You have something to give to your friends. Yourself.
By sharing within your circle, you add your ideas and reactions to the mix of strength pouring forth from your companions. All in that circle, including yourself, gain from the give and take. When you make yourself aware of others’ opinions, your expand your horizons for they may have ideas that you had not considered. Considering them and holding the possibility of them, gains you an expanded world view. It helps to mature you into a deeper thinking person.
But if you share not of yourself, most other people will not give of themselves. Then you miss the opportunity. By entraining any number of thoughts through your friends, you make yourself more sophisticated.
Therefore, be not reticent to give yourself away. The returns are significant and real.
The Pursuit of Happiness – Emotional Intelligence View
Aug 29th
Happiness is a concept so widely discussed and so differently perceived by humans. Most of them think of it as pure hedonism or instant satisfaction. The pleasant sensation one experiences after eating chocolate, drinking a glass of fine wine, winning a prize or having a warm bath might be defined as happiness. But it has a short-term nature. One usually strives to achieve long-time pleasure and gratification that comes with true happiness.
An honest view of yourself and the surrounding world leads to identifying what is truly meaningful and important in your life and capitalizing on those virtues. Thus, filtering the significant aspects and values you can achieve true happiness. The entire process is influenced by one’s emotions. Emotional intelligence certainly contributes to the enhancement of the pursuit of happiness as the persons endowed with such an ability are optimistic, harmonized with their passions and emotionally self-aware.
Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary defines happiness as “a state of well-being and contentment” and “a pleasurable or satisfying experience”. This doesn’t restrict the source of happiness to the inner or outer realms. However, most of the people tend to believe that true happiness comes from inside, within. Ed Diener, the happiness-expert psychologist from the University of Illinois, has surveyed numerous persons in order to establish a hierarchy of most important things in humans’ life. Only 6 percent of the surveyed ones around the world have rated money as more important than happiness. 69 % have declared happiness as the most prominent and essential thing in life.
Many have claimed that people who have a more modest condition enjoy more the little things in life, whereas the rich ones tend to take the privileges for granted. The former work their way through hardship to discover how to really appreciate what life has to offer. The example of a rich and prestigious professor has to endorse this assertion. The respective American professor went for the first time to an international conference in Europe to present a scientific paper of his. He was quite excited for being there.
However, a colleague of his showed him what real appreciation of this opportunity meant. The latter was a young professor at a small college in the United States. He came from a working-class family and was the first one to complete university studies. He also traveled to Europe and abroad for the first time and his trip was funded by the college he was working at. His enthusiasm was even more intense due to the fact they were in England and his family originated in Wales, which determined him to retrace the castle that carried his family name. The prestigious professor was invited by the young one to join him in his quest. Arriving there, after difficulties caused by weather conditions and poor directions, the two had to pay for their access fee in spite of the name the young one bore. Nevertheless, he was very happy and touched by the experience he came to live. This proved to the prestigious professor that happiness had more to do with living to the fullest emotions and special opportunities rather than with material possessions.
