Posts tagged Happy People
How to Be Happy in an Unhappy World
Aug 28th
Many people who have begun to do some form of self-discovery often find that the happier that they become with themselves, the more aware they become of the negativity and gloom that fills the hearts of others. This can often lead to despair as they realize that even though they are gaining happiness for themselves, they cannot directly control the level of happiness in the world around them. Feeling frustrated from this can lead them to either directly engage in the negativity of others, or simply become judgmental of those people who have yet to let go of negativity.
Even though this can be a difficult thing to go through, the one thing that you need to understand is that people only behave in the ways in which they know how to behave. This isn’t meant to justify their behaviors at all, but how can you expect people to do what they haven’t yet figured out how to do?
I recently had a discussion with a friend of mine about some frustration that she was feeling with one of her brothers. She is an aspiring actress and just landed her first commercial. The first thing she did after finding out this news was to call her family and let them know. Her brothers reaction was one of indifference. “That’s not really a big deal,” he said to her. “It’s not like you’re gonna be in a movie or anything.”
This immediately devastated her mood, and the excitement and pride that she’d felt just moments before, turned into pessimism and frustration. The one thing that you need to realize is that the happier you become, the more likely it is that unhappy people will lash out at you. Your happiness for them is nothing more than a painful reminder of what they don’t have. You can’t take this personally. How can you expect someone who hasn’t even begun to find happiness for themselves to be happy for you? You can’t.
Learn to view people for what they are, without holding judgment. The more you judge their state of mind, the more you become sucked into their world. In fact, remove as many of these unhappy, “toxic” people from your life. As soon as possible! While people who are highly enlightened are able to remain happy and “at peace” no matter who’s around them or what situation they’re in, for those who are still on the process of self-discovery, staying positive while around negativity is much more difficult. That’s why it’s so important to get those people out of your life as soon as possible.
Being happy is something that you should never apologize for, nor should you feel badly knowing that others haven’t accomplished what you have. Stay confident in the happiness that you’ve attained, and you’ll be surprised to see that the more positive energy you exert into the world, the more likely people are to rethink their negative ways and find happiness too.
Living a Happy Life
Aug 20th
Leading a happy life is not rocket science. Happiness is not a mysterious magical unicorn; it can be attained fairly easily. The first and most important concept you have to grasp is this: only you can decide whether you are going to be happy or not. Anything that affects your happiness is affecting you because you are letting it. However, following a few simple tips can help you lead the life you’ve always wanted to lead.
Try smiling more. Better yet, try making other people smile. Smiling makes you feel better, reduces your chances of getting sick, and makes everything a lot less stressful. Causing a smile on the face of someone else can make you smile too. Then everybody’s happy.
Some people become sedentary and don’t move around that much. This is a very bad way to be; it’s not healthy and it’s very boring. Get up and take a walk around your neighborhood. This energizes you, switches your day up a little bit, and helps you get in shape. Don’t spend so much time on the couch.
A lot of people don’t like vegetables, but they have been proven to be very good for you. Eating more fruits and vegetables decreases the possibility of getting sick. And it’s hard to be happy when you’re sick, right?
Many people forsake books in favor of the television. At some point in history, people became convinced that book were for nerds or dedicated scholastic types; they decided that books weren’t for them and the only thing that they could do to have fun was watch TV. Books are incredible sources of knowledge, information, and entertainment. They don’t require electricity, so you don’t have to plug it up. That last fact by itself can end up saving you a lot of money, and that’s always good.
Try hanging out with friends. Socializing can make you feel really good; you may not have to be around people to enjoy yourself, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun.
Spending time with children and senior citizens is another way to increase the quality of your life. Whether it’s your grandfather or someone at an old folks’ home, many things can be learned from talking to older people. And children can make you feel young again.
Being happy takes work, like anything else of value. Leading an active lifestyle and maintaining a positive attitude can go a long way. Live life like every day as your last and you will be sure to have a blast.
