Posts tagged Habit
Oh How Fickle
Nov 20th
We have all heard it said, adolescents don’t stick at anything for long? But is this really the case? Or, is this something that all human beings share because it is part of the human condition? Most of us have times when we stray away from our true goals and missions. That is as much part of the human condition as eating breakfast. So, why is it then that others call people who change their minds or who aren’t persistent fickle?
Well, there may be many different reasons for this, none of which should be taken too seriously. We want to be able to say that is okay to change our mind about things. After all, that is part of progress. But what about not sticking things out? Is it a sin to be wayward in our ways?
There may be many reasons why we may not want to stick to something for long or quit when we may be just getting onto something. Here are a few of these reasons and how to overcome them.
1. Take the requisite amount of time to form proper habits. Experts say that it takes two to three weeks to form a habit. If we don’t spend that long forming the habit, chances are, we won’t be successful. So, we must be patient with ourselves at first.
2. We may discover that we don’t like doing what we thought we did initially. That happens all the time. We may be all excited about trying something only to discover later that we hate doing the activity. That is absolutely okay and acceptable.
3. Sometimes the activity eats up a lot more time than we initially expected. The activity may take up our free time or social time. If this is the case, we may not want to continue with it. If this is the case, don’t feel bad about it. We only have so many hours in a day and we have to choose our activities carefully. If we feel overwhelmed because of too many activities, we should probably quit and take up the activity at some other time.
4. We may discover that we only started doing an activity because someone else was going to try it along with us. But as we continue partaking in the activity, we may discover that this isn’t an activity that we like. If this is the case, it is more than appropriate to quit and find something that we truly DO like.
All of these reasons are legitimate reasons for not sticking to an activity that we started. There are other reasons as well. But I will leave that for another time. But in the meantime, we should try not to beat ourselves up for quitting something that we don’t feel we really want to continue. We should always follow our heart and intuition. If our gut says that this activity or habit isn’t for us, it probably isn’t.
Take Responsibility – You Can and Here Is Why You Can Do It!
Oct 13th
A month has passed. Autumn in full swing. People go to work full of fears and hopes. What happens now? There is something going on, as most of us find it hard to pin down. A strange feeling. We live in a world where advertising of atomic bombs the size explodes in our faces every day. A man of a hundred years ago had a life span for the same amount of information.
We are unique and customizable. To a limit. Sometimes it can feel like we are brainwashed. What if it is so? Everything we “think” we know about the world. In economics and politics. We rejoice when the bank raises the interest rate on our savings, but what is the cause? The state lowers taxes to stimulate purchasing power. Why? The unemployment rate, is it true? What is not said?
Our children would like to be trained to become their own individuals. They walk and humming advertising jingles and thinking about who is loosing most weight on the television program. What went wrong? Children must have better stimuli.
Uncertainty is a virus, and hope is not a strategy. People like you and I need to take responsibility. Stop both trust and blame others as soon as you feel resistance.
Personal responsibility is simple. Put up little challenges for yourself.
It may be a glass of water every morning and evening. You take responsibility for your body!
It may be a decision you put off and must be taken. You take responsibility for your self esteem!
You write a shopping list and stick to it. You take responsibility for your finances!
It is that simple and you teach your children and family something, too. There is help available to keep the stamina when changing. It usually takes three weeks for a new habit to stick.
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