Posts tagged Habit
7 Habits of the Highly Confident
Dec 8th
You already know more confidence means a higher level of performance. Studies show that confidence in yourself is the game changer, the one ingredient that makes all the difference in successful venture. (Of course we mean authentic confidence — not that annoying puffery!)
So, after working with so many clients and students with their confidence in public speaking, and this includes mostly self-identified shy people, I’ve come up with a list of the habits you consistently see in highly confident people:?
1. Avidly care for their bodies. It’s not that all highly confident people are model thin, it’s something much deeper. Highly confident people realize that to keep up their high levels of performance, they must take extra care of themselves. You’ll find many of the highly confident people take their nutrition and exercise very seriously.
Exercise, nutrition, and rest are indispensable for mood management…and we all know how ridiculous people can get when they’re irritable simply for burning the candle at both ends, for too long. (Not that I have any personal experience with this.) ;-)
Wearing your exhaustion like a medal of honor is surely a sign your confidence is flagging.
2. Appreciate who they are and what they have. The best way to snap out of negativity is to stop and take a look at what you already have. Highly confident people know they aren’t perfect, but they are also aware that they are already contributing to a better society.
Life is incredible; life is a drag. What are you focusing on?
3. Assign the best possible interpretation of motives to all people and situations. This is a habit, like any other, that has to be deliberately cultivated. It helps you shrug off things people say, or things that happen, that might otherwise throw you off kilter.
Because highly-confident people consistently look for a positive framework through which to view events, other people generally return the favor. This training in looking for the positive slows down that knee-jerk reaction of going off on mental fantasies of disaster.
4. Able to confront early and lightly. This is probably the trickiest but most telling habit. They usually give positive feedback, but when a correction is necessary, highly-confident people say what needs to be said without getting all dramatic about it. And because they take care of themselves, they’re not harboring resentments that can turn a trickle of annoyance into a fatal tsunami.
Having clarity about who you are and what you want is essential to this habit.
5. Ask for help. Highly-confident people don’t have their egos tied to being the lone savior of a situation. Likewise, they realize that people enjoy helping and delight in being asked to contribute. This habit helps avoid overwhelm, another kill-joy tendency.
6. Are acutely aware of their preferences. It’s not that highly-confident people always insist on getting things their way; but somehow, they usually do. When asked where to have lunch, they suggest a place. When asked what they would like to drink or eat, they respond immediately. This awareness sets the foundation for their goal setting, and helps them make better decisions more quickly.
7. Are attractively light-hearted. Highly confident people take their work seriously, but not themselves. That makes them so attractive to others.?
Can you laugh at yourself? That’s a consistent source of joy, thank heavens none of us is perfect!
A Regular Mental Exercise
Nov 26th
Unless you know yourself fully, you will never feel the taste of success though you may have accomplished a lot. It needs some silent time. Listen to your thoughts and let yourself go loose.
Have you ever studied successful people? They have one thing in common. Before the day’s work, they usually spend some time with their thought. These may be thoughts on recent failures and future steps to follow. This habit gives them more virtual time.
Success comes when you finish a project with preparation and confidence. Rehearsing the whole of the project in you mind happening step by step, facing the sudden problems give you such strength and probability that help you a lot. Tesla is an example of this process. He was reported to never start a project without rehearsing the whole project in mind first.
When you work a project through your imagination beforehand, you get prepared for the would-be problems. So, you get more confidence to do the work. As you have rehearsed in your mind, you can move forward smoothly without having too much effort. This leads to enjoyment also.
Anyone can be creative at their levels but you need to give creativity some space. How do you do that? You need to spend sometime in the morning silence. You may feel revitalized and your thought may flow in front of you on the piece of paper.
When our imagination starts flowing, we do not try consciously to make sense. So, when you write down your ideas without an effort to make sense, you may come up with newer ideas.
When you are mentally prepare how you would accomplish something step by step, you will suffer less frustration and less difficulty as well. The whole process of thinking about the issue, writing down the steps and acting accordingly make this happen.
Let this be a regular mental exercise that before you put your hand on a work, think about it. By doing this your success rate will increase and you may feel more satisfied.
