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4 Easy Steps to Making a Capturing Personality
Nov 28th
Do you know what personality really is? Personality is the combination of all of your positive and negative attributes you have acquired throughout your life. All the music you listen to, books you read, people you hang around, the television you watch and any other outside influences all shape your personality. This is not optional; it is a process just like breathing that happens on its own.
Having a great personality will give you many advantages in your life. People will be more apt to talking to you and listening to what you have to say. When you start to talk, people will be drawn in by your words. You’ll be able to make permanent friends instead of temporary ones with a great personality. People will remember you as a stand up person.
Another great advantage to having a wonderful personality is that you will be able to gain trust with others very quickly. You will attract people of high integrity, who will most likely not lie or try and cheat you out of anything. You will attract better people into your life.
There are four easy steps that you can immediately put in place to start experiencing the results above.
The first easy step is very simple. From now on you are to smile when you meet someone. You don’t have to look goofy with a big cheesy grin. You just need to have a nice, pleasant and friendly smile.
When you speak, you need to speak in an upbeat tone of voice. Talk to everyone that you meet, especially new people as if they were your very best friend. Pretend you had known them when you were a child and had not seen them in a long time. Be enthusiastic about what you say and what you have to say.
This one may be a little difficult for some people. You need to take a course in public speaking immediately. Learning how to talk in front of a group of people will give you priceless benefits throughout your entire life. Zig Ziglar and Dale Carnegie both offered these courses. There are many other people, such as your local Toastmasters club you can even sign up with. It is very inexpensive and you can do it right away.
The fourth thing is to become a more informed person in combination with a wonderful sense of humor. Everyone loves to laugh and enjoys a friendly sense of humor. You may sit down with some good joke books and just read over them. You will start to laugh when you do. The next time you are talking with someone, unconsciously you might make a funny joke.
Start to implement these for items right away and you will see results in your life.
Who Is Influencing Your Life?
Oct 28th
It is the statement that used to make you cringe as a teenager. The one mom use to always use when she disagreed with your choice of friends. But does the statement hold true? Someone asked me today about my thoughts on why it is important to surround yourself with successful people. My first thought was, “What classifies success?” The truth is, it doesn’t matter. Everyone has a different definition of success. What is important is not losing your passion for what you love. It is important to continue to strive toward your goals and to never stop dreaming dreams. So many peoples lives have become stagnant. It isn’t that these people don’t have dreams, they have lost their burning desire to attain those dreams. A lot of what causes this is the inability to surround themselves with people who motivate and challenge them. Surrounding yourself with people who motivate and challenge you, keep you on a course to achieving your goals. It holds you to a sense of accountability.
Here’s another way I like to think of it. Picture a group of coals when they are heating your food. As a group, the coals will draw heat from one another, keeping them hot for a long period of time. But if you remove a single coal from the group, it will grow cold in just a matter of minutes. The same is true for us. If you surround yourself with people who share your same beliefs and passion for life, you are more likely to attain true happiness. You stay motivated because as a whole you draw strength from one another. I once read that “confidence is contagious”. If that is true, then so is negativity and lack of motivation. Negativity is so strong that is can literally ruin people’s lives just has fast as you blink an eye.
“The people you associate with and share ideas with have a major influence on how you choose to act upon or not act upon your dreams.” So doesn’t it seem easier to accomplish what you set forth to do when you surround yourself with people who are also striving for more than a stagnant existence?
