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7 Habits of the Highly Confident
Dec 8th
You already know more confidence means a higher level of performance. Studies show that confidence in yourself is the game changer, the one ingredient that makes all the difference in successful venture. (Of course we mean authentic confidence — not that annoying puffery!)
So, after working with so many clients and students with their confidence in public speaking, and this includes mostly self-identified shy people, I’ve come up with a list of the habits you consistently see in highly confident people:?
1. Avidly care for their bodies. It’s not that all highly confident people are model thin, it’s something much deeper. Highly confident people realize that to keep up their high levels of performance, they must take extra care of themselves. You’ll find many of the highly confident people take their nutrition and exercise very seriously.
Exercise, nutrition, and rest are indispensable for mood management…and we all know how ridiculous people can get when they’re irritable simply for burning the candle at both ends, for too long. (Not that I have any personal experience with this.) ;-)
Wearing your exhaustion like a medal of honor is surely a sign your confidence is flagging.
2. Appreciate who they are and what they have. The best way to snap out of negativity is to stop and take a look at what you already have. Highly confident people know they aren’t perfect, but they are also aware that they are already contributing to a better society.
Life is incredible; life is a drag. What are you focusing on?
3. Assign the best possible interpretation of motives to all people and situations. This is a habit, like any other, that has to be deliberately cultivated. It helps you shrug off things people say, or things that happen, that might otherwise throw you off kilter.
Because highly-confident people consistently look for a positive framework through which to view events, other people generally return the favor. This training in looking for the positive slows down that knee-jerk reaction of going off on mental fantasies of disaster.
4. Able to confront early and lightly. This is probably the trickiest but most telling habit. They usually give positive feedback, but when a correction is necessary, highly-confident people say what needs to be said without getting all dramatic about it. And because they take care of themselves, they’re not harboring resentments that can turn a trickle of annoyance into a fatal tsunami.
Having clarity about who you are and what you want is essential to this habit.
5. Ask for help. Highly-confident people don’t have their egos tied to being the lone savior of a situation. Likewise, they realize that people enjoy helping and delight in being asked to contribute. This habit helps avoid overwhelm, another kill-joy tendency.
6. Are acutely aware of their preferences. It’s not that highly-confident people always insist on getting things their way; but somehow, they usually do. When asked where to have lunch, they suggest a place. When asked what they would like to drink or eat, they respond immediately. This awareness sets the foundation for their goal setting, and helps them make better decisions more quickly.
7. Are attractively light-hearted. Highly confident people take their work seriously, but not themselves. That makes them so attractive to others.?
Can you laugh at yourself? That’s a consistent source of joy, thank heavens none of us is perfect!
Self Improvement Is About Becoming Self Directed
Sep 17th
Achievers are those people who give value to themselves and work hard towards self improvement in whatever they choose to pursue. You would rarely find self directed people grumbling about anything or regretting having done or not done something. They live for the best moments of life and never losing their vision of a bigger and brighter tomorrow.
In complete contrast, failures spend the larger part of their time wallowing in regret, shame and worry. Quite a number of them live in self-blame and never make an effort to correct the mistakes that they have done. This is a sure recipe of failing to achieve self improvement. They assume a lugubrious attitude which is contagious and hence makes their very presence quite irritating to optimists. If you are to attain self improvement then you and optimism should be twins.
A self directed person is one who lives to fear nothing but who lives to influence his surroundings. It is said that you either control the turn of things or be controlled by the happenings of nature. If you only believe in the ability to control and influence your surroundings then you will have an easy time in the furtherance and achievement of self improvement.
A bold freethinker and a self directed individual, discovers something which any other Tom, Dick and Harry cannot see. He becomes the distinguishable entrepreneur and leader who revolutionize the industry within which he operates.
Therefore, you have to focus and believe in your capability that is if you desire to be successful in life. Otherwise if you relax and assume things will turn out well then you will lose focus and hence will carry out your affairs in a desultory fashion resulting in failure.
To attain self improvement you must never allow your circumstances to hold you back. It does not matter what your life background was, we all have equal opportunities to make something good out of our lives.
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