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General Overview of Building Self Confidence
Nov 23rd
Self Confidence
Ever wondered that GOD made us all equal but still we don’t feel that way, some of us feel superiors to others while some of us feel inferior, this is all because of our self confidence. Basically, it is a physiological factor, it isn’t just a word we use it’s a form of expression. It is indeed the way we project ourselves in every walk of our life in front of others, but in order to project real confidence a person has to feel from inside that they are the best and they should have full faith in themselves thus it all comes down to trusting and believing in yourself.
Being confident in you comes handy in every department of life, it is a major strength. Usually people are only confident in front of others but deep down they are afraid and when the time comes to show this confidence they break down this happens because they don’t believe in their own capabilities.
Confidence building starts from an early age. A person’s environment, family plays a very major role in building their confidence. Ever noticed, how an oldest sibling in a family behaves for he is always very bold and confident. The fact is that he/she gets most of the attention and care, parents usually compare everything the oldest one does to the younger’s ones and the younger one’s look up to him/her, sometimes some kids are shun out and aren’t given proper attention as a result they are shy and they lack confidence and over the number of years such level of shyness increases and ultimately their confidence level decreases resulting in hindrance while they deal with their routine life. This also results such people being bullied in all walks of life.
It is a general fact which we all believe that no one is just born confident or shy because this isn’t in our genetics, either it is not something which we inherit so building confidence could be easier provided any one suffering from lack of confidence and fears of being failure start paying attention to his self esteem.
Parents are also advised that they should try their best to start building their kids confidence from an early age, so that they can become individuals tackling all the situations and pressures of life calmly. Confident persons are also healthier and happier than the rest thus if there are even 70% of people armed with self confidence, this society would be a much better place to live in.
Kindness: Learning to Empathize (In 5 Minutes)
Nov 19th
e might not be aware of it, but we are an extremely narcissistic society. In fact, this is becoming a problem that could actually undermine our civilization. Certainly, there are parts of this “individualism” which help a society prosper and grow. The ability to think out of strict group restrictions helps people achieve and create amazing things. However, in the midst of our individual pursuits-we have to be careful that the focus of our lives has not become reduced to selfish ambition and blind individualism.
The first step in really cultivating kindness in our lives is choosing to actually try to think in terms of the other. Taking times to actually think and empathize with other individuals. If we are not able to empathize than we are not ever going to be able to be kind people. If we cannot learn to “walk in the shoes of another” it will be impossible to seek the good of the other. To some, empathy is natural, while it may be more difficult for other people. For those with whom empathy is not easy, perhaps a simply psychological activity could go a long way. Right now, close your eyes and think of someone in your life who is going through a rough time- it could be because of a sickness, financial problem, family or relational issues, etc. Now picture this person in your mind, see them, and imagine their thoughts, fears, sorrows, hopes, and dreams. Perhaps this may feel strange or even intrusive at first, but I guarantee as you continue on with this visualization, you will start thinking outside of yourself and experiencing life from the other individual’s perspective. This in turn will help soften your being, as you turn you focus away from yourself.
Another practice you can do is just start focusing your thoughts and prayers on the other individual. One way I like to do this is put on some calming music, close my eyes, and simply bring individuals to the forefront of my mind. As I am slowly breathing in and out, I am simply wishing blessing, peace, and grace on them. I find through this experience, that I grow more empathetic towards these individuals, and actually grow in my kindness towards them. For example, if I am visualizing a family member I have not talked to in a while, I feel more compelled to call them and see how there is life going. Perhaps, if it is a friend that I know is having a hard time, I see a new perspective on how I could be a blessing to them. You can also practice doing this with basic yoga positions. Perhaps, our prayers and wishes for others have less to do with them being directly blessed from God and more to do with God changing us, so we can become more of a blessing to them. In order to become kind people, we have to change our whole way of viewing the world and remove the narcissistic perspective by seeing life from a different point of view
