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Rapport Part 1 – Building Rapport, What, How and Why?
Dec 4th
What is Rapport?
Rapport is the ability to put yourself on somebody else’s wavelength, quickly and successfully, removing awkward silences and encouraging them to trust in you and what you are saying.
It is an integral part of forming any relationship, be that business or personal, short or long term. It enables you to feel relaxed and communicate easily with others, by being flexible in both your behaviour and attitude. It also allows the discussion of difficult topics, without feeling uncomfortable or uneasy.
There are different ways of establishing rapport with someone and choosing which methods are going to work the best in any given situation, comes with understanding, observation and practice.
How Can I Build Rapport?
An easy way to begin is to simply watch and listen to the other person. Notice their breathing pattern and copy it, by breathing in the same way. Listen to their speech, the phrases that they use and the rhythm and tone of their voice and introduce some of them into your speech pattern. Look at the way that they sit or stand and match it with your own posture.
Some people of course do some or all of this naturally and, like a good actor, it is most successful when it’s not overdone. If you look at some of the more famous self help gurus and inspirational speakers, one of the things they all have in common is that they are all excellent communicators. They are able to make groups of people value and trust in both their words and their advice, in a very short space of time, simply by talking to them. For some of them it is a gift, but for others it is an art that they have learned and finessed over time, just as you can.
Why Do I Need Good Rapport?
It’s true to say that first impressions count and research has shown that people’s judgment of others is formed from the following percentages -7% the words they use 38% tone of voice and 55% facial expressions, gestures and body posture. Think about that, they are all things that you can control in yourself, notice in others and use to your advantage in any situation.
The great thing is that once you have successfully established rapport with another person or group, you can still communicate successfully and positively, even if you are not agreeing with what they have said. By respecting the fact that they have their own opinion and view of the world and accepting the fact that though it may well be entirely different to your own, it is no less valid, you are free to safely explore differences in opinion and reach a common conclusion, without encountering hostility or friction.
When you have managed to do these things without too much conscious effort, you will find it easier and more enjoyable conversing with people and on subjects that you may once have felt uncomfortable with and be generally more at ease and confident in what you have to say.
There is no magic trick to building rapport, just by being aware of what it is and utilising it to your advantage, in your day to day conversations and business transactions, you will find an improvement in those interactions and this, in turn, will remove a large amount of the stress from your interactions with others.
I hope that you have found this article helpful and instructive. If you are interested in finding out more about this or any other area of self improvement, please have a look at the personal resources page on my business website, www.tpcinternetmarketing.com
Eyes and Parts of Body – A Non-Verbal Communication
Oct 15th
It is established that body language is a form of non-verbal communication, which consists of body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements. The other parts of the body’s movements play equal and an important role in revealing a person’s behaviour. Humans send and interpret such signals subconsciously. The eyes on the face of a man are most important part of the human body. Its shape, colour and look, altogether from a conduit of information, will reflect the behavioral pattern of a person. Princess Cordelia says, “Eyes are the windows to a person’s soul.”
A person can draw definite conclusions if he understands the true concept of eye movement. The core concept and evaluation of eye movement are directly proportional to his or her capability of observation. The geographical locations and its associated cultural and ritual rites have an effect in evaluation of eye movements. Though it is essential to establish an eye contact with a person, yet movements of parts of the body reveal a lot of information too. Here, it is important to realise the tradition in Islamic countries or those nations which are under its influence. The younger people lower their gaze while talking to their elders. However, in twenty first century this tradition may be falling significantly. The authority of a person with a significant role in his life can be deceptive, even though the dialogues and eye movements are in co-ordination. It may give incorrect information to the observer. In such situations further probe will reveal the truth.
It is a fact that human beings’ eyes reveal truth or lies or other intentions of a person by its movement. However, these actions need more evidence to establish a definite conclusion. In addition, blink of an eye is an important measure in assessing a person’s behavioral pattern. It also proved that the observer arrives at a definite conclusion in a blink of an eye. The psychologist has a different version to substantiate:
Sigmund Freud says, “He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; the betrayal oozes out of him at every pore”.
The synopsis of observation and evaluation of eye movements reveal its predominant role in reading the human mind. The hidden message coherently shows the character of a person. Although internal and external factors masked the eye movement, yet the facts are revealed to the observer by other body parts. It is interesting and informative to observe people in and around you to understand the non-verbal communication. It will help you to evaluate the facts and become good at reading body part movements. It is advantageous to read eye and other parts of body movements of near and dear one because of known background of the subject concern. In the end, every person will realise the gift of nature to human beings, in the forms of body parts and its effects.
