Posts tagged Exhaustion
7 Habits of the Highly Confident
Dec 8th
You already know more confidence means a higher level of performance. Studies show that confidence in yourself is the game changer, the one ingredient that makes all the difference in successful venture. (Of course we mean authentic confidence — not that annoying puffery!)
So, after working with so many clients and students with their confidence in public speaking, and this includes mostly self-identified shy people, I’ve come up with a list of the habits you consistently see in highly confident people:?
1. Avidly care for their bodies. It’s not that all highly confident people are model thin, it’s something much deeper. Highly confident people realize that to keep up their high levels of performance, they must take extra care of themselves. You’ll find many of the highly confident people take their nutrition and exercise very seriously.
Exercise, nutrition, and rest are indispensable for mood management…and we all know how ridiculous people can get when they’re irritable simply for burning the candle at both ends, for too long. (Not that I have any personal experience with this.) ;-)
Wearing your exhaustion like a medal of honor is surely a sign your confidence is flagging.
2. Appreciate who they are and what they have. The best way to snap out of negativity is to stop and take a look at what you already have. Highly confident people know they aren’t perfect, but they are also aware that they are already contributing to a better society.
Life is incredible; life is a drag. What are you focusing on?
3. Assign the best possible interpretation of motives to all people and situations. This is a habit, like any other, that has to be deliberately cultivated. It helps you shrug off things people say, or things that happen, that might otherwise throw you off kilter.
Because highly-confident people consistently look for a positive framework through which to view events, other people generally return the favor. This training in looking for the positive slows down that knee-jerk reaction of going off on mental fantasies of disaster.
4. Able to confront early and lightly. This is probably the trickiest but most telling habit. They usually give positive feedback, but when a correction is necessary, highly-confident people say what needs to be said without getting all dramatic about it. And because they take care of themselves, they’re not harboring resentments that can turn a trickle of annoyance into a fatal tsunami.
Having clarity about who you are and what you want is essential to this habit.
5. Ask for help. Highly-confident people don’t have their egos tied to being the lone savior of a situation. Likewise, they realize that people enjoy helping and delight in being asked to contribute. This habit helps avoid overwhelm, another kill-joy tendency.
6. Are acutely aware of their preferences. It’s not that highly-confident people always insist on getting things their way; but somehow, they usually do. When asked where to have lunch, they suggest a place. When asked what they would like to drink or eat, they respond immediately. This awareness sets the foundation for their goal setting, and helps them make better decisions more quickly.
7. Are attractively light-hearted. Highly confident people take their work seriously, but not themselves. That makes them so attractive to others.?
Can you laugh at yourself? That’s a consistent source of joy, thank heavens none of us is perfect!
The Perils of Multi-Tasking
Oct 4th
Do you tend to do so many things at once that you are confused and very tired at the end of the day? Do you find you frequently make mistakes when you multi-task? Do you find you are distracted when you are always trying to do more than one thing simultaneously?
If you answered any of the above questions in the affirmative, believe me, you’re not alone. Our culture pushes us to continuously be listening to our ipod while driving or reading. Currently, kids are even allowed to bring their cell phones into the classroom. So, it isn’t completely our fault if we get into the habit of multi-tasking. However, you do have to step back from it so that you aren’t ALWAYS multi-tasking.
Multi-tasking is not only self-destructive but it is bad for your health as well as it increases your stress levels over time. It can also be dangerous to multi-task. For instance, if you text and drive or talk on your cell phone and drive, you are likely to get into a car accident. Multi-tasking can be detrimental to you for the following reasons:
1. Your concentration will be scattered and this can cause a lack of concentration over time. After a while, you’ll find it difficult to focus on any one thing for any length of time.
2. You’ll feel overwhelmed and unable to complete tasks. This can really result in a lack of success in different areas of your life. This can also have a detrimental impact on your self-esteem and self-confidence as well.
3. Your loyalties to particular projects may be skewed because you will be frantically going from one activity to another. After a while, you will feel completely fatigued and stressed out. This kind of exhaustion, over time, can really be detrimental to your overall well being.
4. You won’t be able to relax nor unwind at the end of the day because you will keep doing more and more. Multi-tasking can become an obsession if you’re not careful. This can have a lot of deleterious physical and psychological affects to your health.
5. You’ll always be preoccupied. You’ll never do anything well and to your own satisfaction. This, over time, can make you feel overwhelmed and unhappy with how things are going in your life.
So, try not to multi-task. Take some time to exhale and breathe often during the day. If you are in the habit of multi-tasking, try to get into the habit of doing one thing at a time. And remember, you can only do ONE thing well at a time. If you do two or more things simultaneously, you won’t be doing any of them well.
