Posts tagged Emotions
EFT Tapping: My Family Doesn’t Approve of Me
Oct 31st
One of the more common limiting beliefs people hold is that, “My family doesn’t approve of me.”
You may be aware that you believe your family doesn’t approve of you, or you may carry the belief around just under the surface of your consciousness, not really aware that you hold the belief.
Where do you get that belief?
It can be picked up when you’re an infant, before you have the ability to put thoughts into words. As a baby, youinterpretedthe facial expression, tone of voice and emotions of those around you.
Even in the womb, if your mother didn’t want to be pregnant or to have a baby, you could have picked up that belief.
As an infant, when those around you felt upset or angry, you felt their emotions. When the look on someone’s face was disaproving, you felt that disapproval.
Later, after you learned words, you interpreted their anger, disaproval or scolding as, “I’m bad. I’m not a good kid. There’s something wrong with me. I’m not ok.”
For many of us, we were told explicitly that we weren’t approved of.
What disapproving things were you told as a child?
As an adult, we might think, “My family doesn’t approve of me. I’m inadequate. I’m defective.”
Beliefs are simply thoughts that are repeated over and over and held to be true.
You can think of a belief as an obsessive thought. Or an unquestioned thought. We don’t generally question our beliefs; we just assume them to be true.
We often aren’t even aware of our beliefs, as they are so familiar to us. It’s difficult to question something you aren’t even aware of!
Are beliefs true?
A belief is no more true than another thought. In actuality thoughts and beliefs are neither true nor false. They simply are.
But beliefs have great power. Our beliefs have power because we don’t question them. We live our lives based on them. They influence our health, happiness and abundance in all areas of our lives.
Most of your beliefs are limiting. Do you have beliefs about how wealthy you can become?
How about how long you’ll live?
How about your limits because of your gender, your age, your race, your nationality, your education, your intelligence?
Your beliefs keep you from trying new things, from living as you dream, from making the income you’d love to make, from succeeding in areas you only dare to try.
Changing Beliefs Changing your beliefs can be challenging.
First you must discover just what your beliefs are.
Two ways to discover your beliefs are by observing your judgments and by noticing your disturbing emotions.
Under those will be limiting beliefs.
Then you can use the process of EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to release limiting beliefs and instill new, more empowering beliefs.
How to Stop Blushing
Oct 9th
There are plenty of reasons why people blush. We blush when we’re embarrassed, when we’re excited especially if you saw someone whom you like, when someone pays close attention to us, and many more. For some people, this phenomenon is normal but for others they find blushing as a curse particularly to shy people or to people who blush easily. For a person who blushes easily, they become to dread any social functions or meeting people thus making them go out and associate less towards the society. This situation would eventually lead into fear or phobia.
Blushing is normally caused by having an unconscious response to a situation. Blood vessels will tend to enlarge resulting to the increase supply of blood that will flow towards your face. Blushing can also be caused as a result of drug prescription or it could be a medical condition. Therefore, if you want to be cured of this phenomenon, ask the help or advice of your medical doctor on ways to prevent blushing.
In addition, you could also research in advance on the different ways to stop blushing but always remember to consult your doctor of the cure you want to be performed before you finalize your decision. Never make decisions on your own or else you might face another problem that is bigger than just blushing.
Here are some ways on how to prevent blushing. First, find out the reason behind your excessive blushing problem, under what conditions do you normally blush, how often does this dilemma occurs. Jot down on what you have observed. This will assist in seeing a pattern that causes you to blush uncontrollably. If it’s just a physical reaction of a person you admire, don’t evade that person. Use that person to aid you control your blushing problem. Staying away from that person will not help you solve your dilemma. Face that person and learn to practice to control your emotions when you happen to come across him/her.
Second, if it involves an embarrassing situation, just like the first tip I gave, don’t avoid the issue. Try taking a deep breath and then release it slowly. Do not overdo it or you might hyperventilate. Just do this breathing exercise calmly. Relax yourself and think of happy thoughts. Do this ritual again till you’re sure that you’re calm enough to face the issue without blushing. If this doesn’t work, you could ask the help of a psychologist to assist you on dealing embarrassing situations that you think you cannot control anymore.
Third, you can have cognitive behavioral therapy. This therapy will teach you to correct on how you react to the social norm. There are some people who have a vivid imagination on how the society reacts to situations that they deem as embarrassing thus making them react negatively. The more you resist, the more you blush. Instead of limiting your blushing, you only manage to worsen your dilemma.
Fourth, you can undergo hypnosis. This is one of the popular treatments that people with excessive blushing choose. Under hypnosis your body will tend to relax resulting to lessening of your anxiety level. This can also assist you in reprogramming your unconscious mind to stop blushing whenever you’re out in the community or interacting with people. There are some hypnotherapists who will not only help you on how to stop blushing but will also assist you in boosting your confidence. Therefore when you happen to come across an embarrassing situation, you would know how to handle yourself without giving away with what you really feel.
The fifth cure is Endoscopic Thoracic Sympathectomy. This is a surgical procedure wherein your sympathetic nerve trunk is removed or cut. This last cure should only be considered if you have tried all other options and yet it seemed that it didn’t help you solve your problem. Ask your doctor about this whether it’s safe or not, effective or not, and what are its side effects. Although research suggests that this type of surgery is successful in curing excessive blushing, there are also reports that some patients have experienced unnecessary sweating. Therefore, when you decide to choose this option, prepare yourself of what the outcome might be in the future.
