Posts tagged Emotion
You Can Train Yourself to Be Happy
Oct 14th
Human beings are born with emotions. Even newborn babies have their ability to express their emotions by smiling, laughing, and crying. Emotions from newborn babies are fresh, innocent, and admirable. They are straight to express their emotions to anybody and are not afraid of doing so. As babies grow, they encounter many things, good or bad. They learn how to maneuver their emotions for their favor. When they want their parent to buy them a toy, they beg, first, pout then, and cry if not satisfied.
At the same time, they begin to build a wall around them not to reveal their real sentiment. Young children, looking forward to a birthday gift, may be disappointed, because they are not getting something they wanted. They learn that their disappointment is big if their expectation is too much. They begin to control their emotion in the sense that they do not over-joy, not to be badly disappointed.
As they grow, it is inevitable to develop negative emotions. They may think, when they are happy, that they should be careful not to be over-joyful, because they know they might be disappointed if they are over-joyful. It seems that people become more negative than younger days, as they grow. As one gets old, he tends to believe that he was happier in his younger age. This seems to be the mechanism to cause negative sentiments.
Some people develop resentment, cynicism, skepticism, and depression. Instead, there are people who are always cheerful and happy. One may wonder why those people can be happy all the time. It may be their nature. They might have been born that way. Instead, however, they might have trained themselves to be happy instead of unhappy.
Even experiencing same occasion, one feels grateful, the other feels sad. A soldier, who lost his arm in a war, could be depressed by his loss. It is quite understandable. He could be, instead, however, glad he did not die in fighting, all because he lost his arm and sent back to hospital. Why does this difference happen? The ones who could be happy and grateful for the same occasion, which they experience, tend to train themselves to be glad and happy, consciously or unconsciously.
In the movie “The Matrix”, Mophius explained to Neo that the feeling is only an electric signal which brain receives to feel. If one has negative circuit, he feels negative. If the other has positive circuit, he feels positive. Human beings are so well-built system that we can repair or rebuild our circuit in the way we want. If one trains his mind to feel negative, he becomes negative. If he teaches his head to respond positively, he drives him to be happy and positive person.
The training to make one happy person is quite simple. One can keep trying to take a look at the bright side of things. Every cloud has a silver lining. In one’s saddest time or worst experience, one can pick something, which he can be grateful. It is easy to write this way, however. It is a different story if one can really do it. Again turning to the movie “The Matrix”, it is as Oracle told Neo that knowing the path is different from walking the path.
The effective method of this training is to write “Gratitude List”. If one keeps diary, he can use his diary to try this method. At the end of a day, we can open our favorite diary book and write about happy occasions we had on that day. One or two would be okay, but you can consider as many as possible. You need to think seriously what made you glad and happy. You may be able to use your PC or Blog, but some advised that hand writing is the best. In this way, your mind will be trained to look for happy matters and feel happy about whatever comes to your life.
Improve Your Confidence
Oct 12th
Your mind is like a computer; you create feelings in your body through the images and sounds that you create in your mind. When you create great pictures of success in your mind along with a positive internal voice you create empowering feelings in your body. Through constant practise and conditioning, these become automatic processes that give you the feelings you want consistently. I’ll show you how these process work and how to achieve more confidence in any area of your life.
Master your Mind
In order to achieve more confidence, first you must master your mind. By creating empowering images and sounds in your mind you create empowering feelings of confidence in your body. Have you ever seen somebody that is so confident, and you thought it would be awesome to be like that? How do you think they become confident like that? They created amazing pictures of themselves succeeding in their mind, along with a confident internal voice that told them they can achieve whatever they want. This drove them to take action and as they took action over and over, everything became easier and easier. Confidence became an automatic process, like tying their shoelace or brushing their teeth. Therefore, the real trick to lasting confidence is to take more action, over and over. You became great at walking, because when you were a baby, you tried it so many times. Finally after falling down enough times, you were able to walk and it became an automatic process. The same is true about confidence or any other empowering emotion. The more action you take over and over, you’ll eventually become confident in this area which will be lasting confidence. This all sounds good in theory, but let me give you a technique that will give you more confidence and allow you to take more action to achieve lasting confidence.
Visualise and Anchor
Close your eyes and slow down your breathing. Imagine seeing yourself in a blockbuster movie. See the way you move, the way you breathe and the look on your face when you’re doing something you’re totally confident in. Now step inside yourself in that movie and see everything through your own eyes when you’re totally confident. Make the pictures bigger, brighter and more colourful in your mind now. What sounds do you here around you, when you’re totally confident? Make these sounds richer and louder. Now feel the amazing feelings of confidence spread throughout your body as you completely confident in this situation. Intensify these feelings of confidence now, and when you’re completely confident squeeze your thumb and middle finger together for about 2-3 seconds and then release. This will create an emotional anchor for these confident feelings. Keep visualising and when you feel these amazing feeling of confidence again, squeeze these fingers together. Repeat this 3-5 times. Now when you squeeze these fingers you’ll have all these amazing feelings of confidence spread throughout your body.
Transfer the feeling
Now close your eyes again and visualise the situation you’re struggling to have confidence in. Imagine you’re in a blockbuster movie and see everything playing out successfully, the way you want it to play out. Notice the way you look, the way you breathe and the look on your face when you’re totally confident in this situation. Now step inside yourself in this movie and see everything play out successfully through your own eyes. Make the images bigger, brighter and bolder and create a confident internal voice in your head. Now squeeze your anchor and feel all these feeling of confidence spread throughout your body while you’re in this situation. Go back and repeat this 3-5 times. Now when you fire your anchor, all those amazing feelings of confidence will spread throughout your body.
Open your eyes and think of the situation you were struggling with confidence. How do you feel now? I bet you feel great and you’re itching to take some action. With all these amazing feelings of confidence inside you’re able to take more action in this situation. By taking more action over and over you’ll create an automatic feeling of confidence in your body that will last. This is a quick and easy way to create lasting confidence in any area of your life. This will ultimately lead you to enjoy more happiness and success in your life.
