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Only One Of Five Hundred Will Make It and You Can Be the One

Charles — Sat, 22 Jan 2011 03:59:27 +0000

Out of five hundred people, only one will follow through to the end. That was the message Robert Allen shared at a conference on financial freedom. During the conference Allen shared fifty tools his audience could use to become financially stable.

Allen was summarizing years of teaching and statistics. Of the 500 present, Allen shared that 450 would leave the conference and the information they gained would just end up sitting on the shelf.

Of the remaining 50, 40 would quit soon after they began their new journey because it was harder than they thought it would be to make changes.

Of the final ten, nine would start strong but eventually would simply get caught up in daily living and give up the idea of designing the life of their dreams. That left one person who would follow through and reach their goal.

Want to be the “one” who doesn’t procrastinate? Want to be the person who goes beyond just wishing things were different?

Joseph McClendon offers three powerful suggestions for reaching your dreams.

First, do one thing over and over that moves you closer to your outcome. Robert Allen offered fifty principles of financial success, but shared that if each person simply picked one idea and stuck with it they would make serious progress.

One way to translate this idea into your own life is to read and re-read one book over and over again until you master its contents, rather than reading ten books one time.

I remember one conversation a successful man had with a struggling entrepreneur.

“Have you read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill?” asked the CEO.

“Of course I did,” the student responded.

“Great, I have read it ten times,” came the reply.

Tiger Woods is outstanding at one sport because he focused solely on it. So avoid the common trap of getting caught up in continually searching for the next skill or technique and master one thing.

Secondly shares McClendon, “Once in a lifetime opportunities come along every two weeks.” So when you face a “no” or a rejection, realize you are just moving one step closer to another opportunity that will come into your life.

Third, just begin. Many people want all the answers and certainty before they step out and take action. However, actions come first and the knowledge of what you need to do next will arrive right on time. So don’t wait until everything is “just right,” start today and do something.

In 1960 there were no storage units in America, today there are over 30,000 units annually grossing over 12 billion dollars, evidence of unrest and people buying more and more in the hopes that the next thing will bring satisfaction.

In the end lasting joy comes not from acquiring stuff but from moving towards your dreams and enjoying the journey as one of the few who wasn’t afraid to take the next step.

Don’t Fall For a Set Up

Charles — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 15:10:18 +0000

It is time for you to stand up and stand out! And one way that you can do that is to become dedicated to follow your dreams. You can’t allow yourself to be set up anymore. If you don’t become dedicated to living the life that you deserve to live then that is what you may be doing.

You are allowing past situations, current situations, your own negative thoughts, or other people to hold you back. This is a set up that will lead to your not succeeding. Many times we don’t look at those things as setting us up. We convince ourselves that for one reason or another that we don’t deserve it, or that it is too late, or that success is not for us.

But that way of thinking is a set up. And you deserve to live a life that is fulfilling and rewarding. You deserve to let your life shine. Even though you may look at your life right now and feel that it is not where you want to be. That doesn’t mean that you park right there and settle.

What that means is that you learn to be purposeful in the present. By that I mean that you learn to love who you are right now, and you are thankful for the blessings that you have in your life today. You know your purpose in the present, but you are also dedicated to work on things that are going to make you feel fulfilled in the future.

A major part of a mindset set up is when you think that just because you have made mistakes in the past that have led you to where you are today. That’s the end. Well, why not flip that mindset? Why not look at today as the beginning?

Why not look at all of the past mistakes as learning experience that have prepared you for where you are at currently. The things of the past can’t be changed. But how you allow them to affect your life can be changed.

When you can look at your mistakes as learning experiences you have gained empowerment to look past the past and toward the future. I admit that I have fallen for many set ups. And the sad part about it is that at that time I didn’t even realize that it was a set up. I just had accepted the mindset that I had missed it. I had accepted the mindset that success wasn’t going to happen for me.

But now when I look back into my life, and see what was going on in my mind before my mind shift occurred I can clearly see that it was a set up. It was a set up to prevent me from living the life that I was designed to live. And that is a life that is rewarding and fulfilling.

It was a set up because if I would not have followed my dreams then all of the people I was created to help wouldn’t have been helped through me. So if I would not have recognized my set up it would have affected more people than just me.

So think about this. Have you allowed something to set you up? Have you allowed something to prevent you from living the life that you deserve to live? Have you allowed the chains of your past to be a set up for your future?

If you answered yes then it is time to take action, and refuse to be set up anymore. Today is YOUR day to make your set up a comeback!

Who Is Influencing Your Life?

Charles — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 04:24:27 +0000

It is the statement that used to make you cringe as a teenager. The one mom use to always use when she disagreed with your choice of friends. But does the statement hold true? Someone asked me today about my thoughts on why it is important to surround yourself with successful people. My first thought was, “What classifies success?” The truth is, it doesn’t matter. Everyone has a different definition of success. What is important is not losing your passion for what you love. It is important to continue to strive toward your goals and to never stop dreaming dreams. So many peoples lives have become stagnant. It isn’t that these people don’t have dreams, they have lost their burning desire to attain those dreams. A lot of what causes this is the inability to surround themselves with people who motivate and challenge them. Surrounding yourself with people who motivate and challenge you, keep you on a course to achieving your goals. It holds you to a sense of accountability.

Here’s another way I like to think of it. Picture a group of coals when they are heating your food. As a group, the coals will draw heat from one another, keeping them hot for a long period of time. But if you remove a single coal from the group, it will grow cold in just a matter of minutes. The same is true for us. If you surround yourself with people who share your same beliefs and passion for life, you are more likely to attain true happiness. You stay motivated because as a whole you draw strength from one another. I once read that “confidence is contagious”. If that is true, then so is negativity and lack of motivation. Negativity is so strong that is can literally ruin people’s lives just has fast as you blink an eye.

“The people you associate with and share ideas with have a major influence on how you choose to act upon or not act upon your dreams.” So doesn’t it seem easier to accomplish what you set forth to do when you surround yourself with people who are also striving for more than a stagnant existence?

What Do You Want To Do With Your Life?

Charles — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 04:18:18 +0000

I see dead people every day in my life. They are dead and they still walk among us. I am not joking and really mean it.

The living dead that I am referring to are people who just exist in today’s society with no aim or purpose in their lives. They are living, but yet dead at the same time (ironic isn’t it?). When you ask them what makes them excited or passionate, a large number of people have forgotten about it. They cite reasons that when they were younger, they had dreams. Some even had ambitions. The sad thing is that after many years of working and climbing the corporate ladder, they looked back and asked themselves “Am I happy and is this life?”

In the book Halftime, it describes that for most people in the first half of their lives, they really work hard to pursue success. Everyone has a different idea of what success looks like. For some it will be money or career, while others it could be about places they have travelled or people they have met. However, when they enter the second half of their lives, they look back at the work of their hands and ask the following fundamental questions: “What have I done so far?” and the usual “Am I contented with it?” They realise that their lives are no longer about pursuing success, it is about pursuing significance.

Here’s my story and journey of how I started my entrepreneur journey:

I started off my career working in an engineering company that was extremely established in Singapore. I was into building automation and served as a project engineer handling building projects. It was something that I could do, in fact, it was something that I was trained well for. I mean, my early years in life was spent on preparing for a job in the engineering sector.

Until something happened. At the age of 26, I started to ask myself a question which all adults actually ask at one point in their lives and that is “what do I really want to do with my life?” It was astonishing simple but yet, it could not be answered at all. I was dumb folded.

This question kept ringing in my head. I actually ignored it, thinking that it will go away. It did go away, only to resurface again a week later, then another week and a couple of days later. It just kept coming back. For some adults, they ignored it to a point where their dreams were drowned by the immediate concerns of providing for the family. I acknowledge that all of us have a responsibility to fulfill to our families, but what has happened to our dreams in the process? Can there be a way to fulfill both at the same time?

It took me a year of soul searching and to constantly ask what I am passionate about? And I finally found it. I discovered that I really love to teach and inspire people towards fun, loving and supportive relationships. Not only I found it, I took massive action towards it. I started asking myself how can I do more of what I am passionate about? Are there groups that I can join to do just that? Is there a career decision that I have to make for that to happen? Can I change my attitude towards life and start taking personal responsibility for all the results that I have been getting? Will I make a firm decision to change my life right now?

Fast forward into the present now. I have traveled to 7 countries so far, conducting training and giving talks on motivation, mindset change and building teams. At a young age, I have spoken to CEOs, directors and people twice my age. I have given keynote speeches in conferences and learning seminars. I have personally trained or spoken to 5400 people. Everything started because I started to find out what makes me excited and alive. So, my question to you is what makes you excited? What makes you feel alive? Will you take some time to list them down? Don’t do it for me, but do it for yourself!

Do read my questions that I have posted earlier here and reflect on it. Take time to clear the clutter off your mind and another 30 minutes to reflect upon it. Do share with me on what you have discovered!

Experience Your Dreams

Charles — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 02:06:27 +0000

What would you like to experience? Do you have a list? A list of things you would like to experience is different from, ‘The Bucket List,’ in the movie of the same name, starring Morgan Freeman, Jack Nicholson and Sean Hayes.

Experiencing things you dream about, and have not, is a choice. How are you stopping yourself from experiencing it? What would it be like to live the life you dream of experiencing? What would it be like to experience the things you have dreamed about?

Have you developed a plan to experience things you have dreamed about? Like anything you want to accomplish you need to have a plan. The adage, ‘Failing to plan is planning to fail,’ holds true.

Spend time each day designing the mental blueprint (plan) to accomplish your dreams. You are made of the stuff that makes up the Universe, the Spirit of the Universe and all its Creativity is within your grasp. You are inter-related with the Universal Laws, which are founded on the understanding that everything in the universe is energy, including humans, and that energy moves in a circular fashion. Thus, the Universe’s energy brings to you what you dream, when you truly believe in it.

Let go of any limiting beliefs. Some limiting beliefs are:

• I cannot succeed, so, there is no point in committing time.
• My opinion is right there is no point considering other viewpoints.
• My actions are the only way to resolve an issue.
• Feelings of inadequacy and non-deserving.
• Fear of success.
• Fear of failure.

Give yourself the wonderful gift of experiencing what you dreamed about. Breathe into the process and move step-by-step. Develop a blueprint of your dreams, imagining yourself already experiencing it with each step. Like building a house step-by-step, you begin with the foundation, walls and then the roof, thus moving forward systematically until completion.

Enjoy your journey of experiencing your dreams.

Change Your Life In Seven Days – Find Your Self Confidence

Charles — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 00:15:58 +0000

Have you ever wondered if someone who appears to be totally confident on the outside, is really as insecure as you are? Most people lack confidence. The ones that are in your face confident are usually relying on their Pretend self. Pretend Self is one of three selves that we carry around.

First of all there is the Pretend self. This identity will fake it until you make it to manage life obstacles. Then, there is the Negative self. This identity focuses on all your negative habits and projects a detrimental image of the self. Lastly, there is the Authentic self. The Authentic self is the tender person you truly are at the core.

Because folks fear not fitting in, many people hide behind the Pretend self. It hurts to be judged by others. If you fit in, you won’t be judged. It takes a lot of energy to live the Pretend self and over time, you forget how to be an Authentic person.

When someone criticizes you, it is the Negative self that will latch onto those words. This self starts a running loop of negativity that constantly plays in the background. Particular triggers will activate the Negative Self. If someone calls you a name, you become upset. Your Negative self believes that you represent that remark. “Any negative traits you identify are not really yours – they belong to your negative self-image, and were programmed into to you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go,” states Paul McKenna in Change Your Life in Seven Days.

On the other hand, Authentic self is your core person (minus the negative and fake parts). This is the self that has dreams and aspirations, the one that feels it’s heart swell with so much love when people you cherish are nearby. This self is powerful and unstoppable when allowed to dominate your actions. It is easy to attain once you recognize the negative and false dialogues running through your head.

Programmed Dreams – Program Dreams To Get Answers On The Future

Charles — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 08:38:58 +0000

Programmed dreams continue to amaze me. There seems to be no limit to what they can reveal. We demonstrated this repeatedly with cause and treatment for health problems that are not yet known in modern medicine. We also demonstrated it with dreams that reach beyond the dreamer more than can be explained by coincidence. This is similar, for example, to those facing hopeless situations and, then repeatedly beyond chance, finding that prayer works.

A number of programmed dreams have foretold future events with amazing accuracy. This does not mean that the dreamer will receive this particular miracle any night at will, but it indicates that such can happen and we should not exclude the possibility. In fact, to exclude the possibility from consideration could eliminate the possibility for it to happen. That would be like putting a problem into a computer and adding the stipulation that the computer cannot solve the problem.

One time a couple asked for advice about whether to get married, and I told them to program a dream. Furthermore, I said, it will be the same dream because there is only one best answer. I meant, of course, that it would be the same answer. Symbolism can vary. Both had the dream of being married, and the symbolism of each represented having four children. Many years later, after the fourth child was born, the woman required a tubal ligation because of complications in the pregnancy.

In another case, a man programmed a dream about starting a business venture with an Oriental couple. The people were honest, likeable, and hard working; but the dream told him the husband would have a heart attack and be unable to work, so he did not enter into the partnership. I do not know the outcome, but based on thousands of other program dreams, I would be surprised if this did not occur.

One of my own personal experiences involved an offer I had to purchase certain development property. On the surface, it looked like a promising investment. Crucial to the potential value of this property was the planned opening of a bridge across the bay. Persons were encouraged to buy two pieces of property because it would double in value when the bridge opened and they could sell the second to pay for the first.

The programmed dream, however, revealed that property owners would all try to sell the second property at the same time when the bridge opened and prices would plummet. Essentially, that is what happened. Prices dropped, in some cases, by as much as 50 percent.

Information Beyond What Is Contained in the Mind

Information often goes beyond that which we would presume is contained in the mind. In fact, the programmed dream can provide knowledge that we know for certain was not within the scope of information available to us through direct, five-sensory perception.

For example, I once wrote a very strong letter to a patient who was taking too much Valium. Two nights later during sleep, I became aware that she was so infuriated by the letter she decided not to return. Then during sleep, I realized we both were at the same receptive level of consciousness, so I just pictured her deciding to come in the next day. When she arrived, she said to me, “When I got your letter yesterday, I was so peeved that I decided I would never come back.

But when I woke up this morning, I changed my mind.” She, of course, thought that she changed her mind when really all she did was read my mind. Anyone can do that during sleep, but few realize this.

Two patients with businesses saw their stores being robbed during a dream. The first saw someone cutting a hole in the roof of her pawnshop, lowering himself by a rope ladder and stealing guns. She called the police, and they told her they already caught him. He had set off the alarm.

Another woman awakened with a dream that someone tied up her manager in the back room and was robbing her jewelry store. She called, and it had just happened.When you program long enough for dreams, the mind becomes aware that you want to gather information during sleep, and it automatically does this for you. You might find yourself receiving important information you need to know. Sometimes the information can alert you to danger concerning a friend, and you will know exactly what to do.

Programmed Dreams – Answers to the Question of Abortion

Charles — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 02:00:58 +0000

For years, I had awaited the opportunity to try the programmed dream on a person who was thinking about abortion. In thirty-nine years, none of the programmed dreams instructed anyone to do something morally wrong, so I was curious about the answer we would get concerning the question of abortion.

Finally the opportunity presented itself. A young lady with a history of drug addiction became pregnant, and her mother was insisting she have an abortion. It was her first pregnancy. I told her to program a dream as to what to do about the pregnancy that will work out best. Those last five words make a vital difference in the programming. No one will have reservation about receiving a programmed dream answer that will work out best. Persons might worry about getting an answer they don’t want to hear – but those five words eliminate that particular resistance.

The next week, she reported the dream: she saw her two-year-old son lying dead on a cold steel slab in the morgue. She was still crying when she described her dream. The important thing is that after the dream, she was totally focused on saving her baby. She recalled seeing her father dead on a cold steel slab in the morgue, so this dream was designed specifically for her because the imagery is what would touch her heart the most.

This is a good dream for women to program when they see no option but to have an abortion. It is important not to program the dream: “What do I want to do?” That is an irrelevant question. What the person wants to do might be something quite foolish and have harmful results. To program “that will work out best” includes everything, even the future, and will bring the greatest happiness. When the answer comes, it is from a higher source, and the person knows it is right.

Not long after the first patient seeking abortion came to me, a man came to the office and mentioned that his sister was thinking of an abortion. Immediately I wrote the same programmed dream for him to give to her: “I will have a dream about the pregnancy, and the interpretation of the dream will tell me exactly what to do that will work out best.” The man reported that he gave her the dream that same day, and when he saw her the next morning she leaped off the sofa, threw her arms around him, crying and crying. He thought something was terribly wrong and asked her what happened.

“I had the DREAM” she shouted, still crying. In her programmed dream she was in her back yard playing with her little baby – rolling a ball back and forth, chasing it around the yard, and having the most joyful time of her whole life. There were no more thoughts of abortion.

Finding Myself

Charles — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 05:01:58 +0000

How long will you not know my call? Do you not hear my voice and know it is I who call? My sheep hear My Voice and are not moved by the voice of others.

?I am not seen through eyes of flesh, or heard through ears of skin. Be still. Listen as I call your name. My call is heard by those who know me, ignored by those who don’t, but I am here. Listen and you will see.

Let me be your judgment. Your judgments are partial indeed. My guidance is sure. Watch as I unfold the mysteries of the world. Will you listen? Will you listen for me? Your ego has not taught you lessons of truth, it only speaks of despair and weakness which is the reality of itself. Do you really want to know the Truth? Listen….

Eternal things can not be judged by temporal sources. Think on this.

How can you truly judge? YOU…CAN NOT. Haven’t I shown you how uncertain your judgments can be? Trust that I will order your thoughts, this you must do. I will separate your dreams of illusions and show you Truth indeed. Truth has not left you. It sits quietly inside of you waiting for your return. Yet you look on outer things to save. Salvation comes to those who look within.

Is it possible you could be lost, yet unaware. Masking your uncertainty by your confident demeanor. How lost indeed. The defense of the ego is for insanity to remain.

If you ask, I will show you the way. Oh…., but you are sure you are on the straight and narrow, no need to stop and ask, right? You don’t ask, because you don’t question (Your) way. Ask and it shall be given unto you. Would your rather defend the egos vain tricks of grandiosity or give up your way for mine? The salvation of this world is inside of you. Be Still…..Listen…

Programmed Dreams – Where Do the Answers Come From?

Charles — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 03:25:58 +0000

A Special Research Design Received During Sleep

Who is this higher mind? Is it the same for everyone? None of my friends, relatives, or patients, in over forty years, received answers that I thought to be wrong. I know there are negative thoughts that influence persons when they sleep, but when we program for the best answer, that is what we get. If it is true that we can know by the fruit, then this certainly indicates the answers come from a good source — and repeatedly, this has been independent of the person’s belief system.

The results are equal. So it doesn’t matter what you believe. My experience-from interpreting on the average at least five dreams a week and sometimes ten or more over the course of forty years-is that the result does not depend on what you believe. When you ask for the best answer to a problem, that is what you get. You might have difficulty interpreting it and you might not remember the dream, but we have ways around these obstacles.

If the answers come from a heavenly source and are given to anyone who asks for the best answer, could this mean we are all brothers and sisters with one Heavenly Father? Christians and Jews await the Messiah. Could He be the same? Even Chidananda, one of the great spiritual leaders of India, often said to me, “Many names and many forms, but one God.” You can find the answer for yourself any night at will. Just decide to have a dream about the Messiah and decide that the interpretation of the dream will tell you the truth about Him and exactly who He is. Then decide to awaken at the very end of the dream, remember it, and write it down. Don’t be surprised if you have a personal visit!

One night, during sleep, I was explaining to someone in a dream, how easy it would be for him to prove all his theories. In the dream I considered him a little simple because he didn’t seem to understand right away. When I awoke, I realized I was the simple minded person to whom some higher self was explaining the research design.

The research design is incredible. It would identify the peak age of origin and age range-of-origin of every symptom and diagnostic category related to infant trauma – and the data already exists. No one would guess the research design, but for a pocket full of change, the study would identify cause of mental illness.

In my primary work, I have identified unsuspected early traumas in the life of persons with mental and emotional disorders, and these traumas correlate with the later development of these disorders. This is age specific. I first discovered this in a child psychoanalytic training class with Dr. Margaret Mahler when she said the origin of childhood schizophrenia is in the first 18 months of life. Checking my then current adult patient population, I found half a dozen schizophrenic patients who had a sibling about 1? years younger, and as many non-psychotic depressed with a sibling about 2? years younger. The mutual exclusivity of the two groups is one over two to the 12th power, or one chance in 4,096 by chance alone.

This is only one out of thousands of infant separation traumas, but it is common, it is upsetting to many infants, and there is a record of how old the child was when the next was born. Thus we used it to identify to identify age-of-origin specific parameters. Once we could identify clinically the age of origin of a disorder, we could search the month for what happened.

The research design from the dream was to take a complete sample of all patients from any state hospital where birthdates are recorded, for one year in the 1950s, and study the symptoms, according to age in months of the baby during the month of October 1929. That was the month that devastated families nationwide.? From my 44 years of experience and research surveys, I predict a continuum of mental and emotional disorders across this nation, dependent strictly on age in months of the baby when that devastation occurred.

Schizophrenias will be among those who were in the first 18 months of life on that date, schizo-affective disorder will be 19 to 21 months, bipolar disorders will peak at 22 months, the other psychotic depressions up to 24 months and the non-psychotic depressions 24 to 34 months.

This incredible design, received during sleep, would quickly confirm origin of serious mental disorders, at minimal cost, with data that already exists! We would identify the peak age of origin and age range-of-origin for every symptom and every diagnostic category related to infant trauma.