Posts tagged Distraction
Do You Have the Fear of Abandonment?
Nov 17th
From a small age, women develop the fear of abandonment. They live with the fear that if someone really knew them then they would be alone. Little girls, older women, and all ages in between want to know, “Am I loved?” Women are afraid of the answer and they hide. They hide in business, distraction, daydreaming, silence, shame and actual hiding.
Little girls develop language skills and small motor skills more quickly than little boys. Little girls are more relational than little boys. They want to spend time talking and sharing. They will spend hours in make-believe conversations between dolls, shoes, or whatever they can find. Inanimate objects become personalities with a multitude of discussions.
These little girls spend time trying to get the attention of their caretakers. They want to know if they are worth anything to someone. They want to know if they are seen and appreciated. Parents are required, or the little girls would like for them to be required, to stop, look at them, and listen to what they have to say. This means they have a relationship with someone. This means they are important enough to receive individual attention. If they do not receive it they begin to hide.
When the little girls get older they encounter many people are not interested in them. They are not focused upon. They are not listened to. They are not appreciated. The young girls learn that there are people who do not want to have a meaningful relationship with them. They do not understand why. They think it is their fault. So they continue hiding and learn to hide in new ways.
They have started to learn how to make someone like them. They have given up part of themselves in order to be more like someone else. This will give them what they need. This will give them a relationship.
As young girls become young women they have begun to notice how their own mothers or caregivers relate to other people. They will use those same methods of busyness or controlling they see in order to make themselves more useful and likeable. This is how they will get relationships. Teenage girls learn to deal with boys by watching their mother and father or other role models. They might not like how this is done and may look for adults who model other behaviors.
Most adult women have habits of hiding their true selves to protect themselves from abandonment. These habits can completely change a woman’s true personality. She may become bossy and controlling when she is naturally easygoing. She may become timid and withdrawn when she is really an outgoing sociable woman. Usually these changes are to protect a relationship the woman sees as necessary to avoid abandonment.
Happiest Place On Earth
Oct 14th
Disneyland, known as Disney’s Magic Kingdom uses the tagline, ‘The Happiest Place on Earth.’ Although, people stand in line for more than an hour to get on rides or an event they are still happy. What makes it the happiest place on earth?
A Tel Aviv University study reveals the key to keeping customers happy is distracting them so they do not notice how long they are waiting. Prof. Dan Zakay says, ‘Our perception of time is subjective. People are more apt to walk away if they think they are wasting too much time.’ Zakay discovered that people, who had something to watch thought they were waiting half the time than those who were in line without any distraction. Jakay says, ‘Essentially people want to feel that their time is valuable and they are not wasting it in line.’
The formal name for this phenomenon is queue psychology. So, when Snow White, Mickey, Mini Mouse or other Disney characters greet a line of visitors, they are not just being friendly – they are a decoy to entertain and distract people from the moment. Furthermore, the lines at Disney parks are no ordinary, straight-arrow lines. They are back-and-forth patterns, so that the next turn is never out of sight, thus, giving a greater impression that one is making progress.
They have conditioned people how to think from the place inside themselves that builds perception – the same place that builds dreams.
Right where you are right now you could perceive you are in the happiest place on earth. You can condition yourself to use the place inside you that builds dreams. Consider those things that, serve as a reminder to think inside yourself. What is most likely to distract you from the mundane task you are doing?
Highly effective distractions are listening to your favorite lively music or your favorite motivational speakers. Allow the distraction to carry you to that place where you build dreams.
Have a Happy Day while being in your happiest place in your mind that builds dreams.
