Though you are created in the flesh, realize you are just as much fully creator in spirit.

As created, you react to what you observe, immersed in the game. On the field, you attempt to turn the momentum of an opponent and stem the tide of an overwhelming advance. Through the self you attempt to seize control of your destiny in the game, but the limited, misinformed self does not grasp the truth: you have not been relegated the role of puppet or pawn – you can choose to control your destiny, be captain of your soul, master of your fate.

While most tolerate the discomfort of a life beyond their control, or attempt to address the discontent inherent in the struggle on the field, realize another option – a far greater option – exists. You are created and contribute to creation.

Recognize and embrace your true nature as both created and creator. As creator come to understand you are a player on the field with the ability to manipulate the game. You can influence circumstances not so much through what you do on the field but through what you intend, desire, focus on. You move the flesh, you manipulate reality, through the spirit.

As creator, you have the absolute ability to alter your perspective from the front line to the side line and change the outcome, the very nature and circumstance of the game.

You can, with surety, assume the role of creator and generate a new experience in this life. Each human being has access to the same divine well-spring, but very few avail themselves of the opportunity to use it.

While experiencing this reality of polar opposites seize upon the truth. You are in this world but not of this world. You do not have to succumb to the will and fear of the ego. Your nature is divine.

While in this reality you have the capacity to create. You are creator. And as creator you can choose how to navigate this illusion. You have a choice.

Choose to create a life of beauty, of harmony, of love. The world will be a better place for you and for all of us because of your choice.

Copyright (c) 2010 Scott F Paradis

It’s so easy to focus on the negative and fall into the trap that life is hard, our hardships are worse than anyone else’s, and we can lose track of the light at the end of our tunnel. I know I have been through this many times in my life and no matter how hard you try the temptation to fall back into these thought patterns will always be there. That’s why it is so important to know and remember that we become what we think about. Repeat that over and over, realize it and accept it, but remember it’s a good thing.

I say this because this means that the power lies within us to change our circumstances and change the course of our lives. We have this awesome power and great power means great responsibility. It’s our responsibility to make sure that we use this ability to maximize the potential and opportunity in our lives. “If you think you can do a thing or you think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” – Henry Ford. The world is filled with a limitless bounty ripe for the picking or it isn’t, the answer lies in our own head. Our mindset is the factor that makes that distinction, thoughts become things, keep that in mind.

If you’re unhappy with yourself for any reason, deal with what’s troubling you immediately before it can cause permanent damage to your self-esteem. The only things that we can change about ourselves are those that we are willing to acknowledge. When we deny that someone, or something, is robbing us of our self-esteem, we become passive and refuse to take action.

The first thing to do is to ask yourself, “What triggered my low self-esteem?” Was it an unkind remark, a poor body image, rejection, a major setback in your life, etc.? Try to be as honest as possible and pinpoint the exact cause.

The next step would be to find solutions to eradicate the cause. I don’t suggest that you start plotting revenge to every person who’s been mean to you. And certainly, you can’t turn back the hands of time and wish that you’ve done something different. The feasible way has more to do with your thinking. Change the way you think about the people or things or situations that gave you low self-esteem.

It’s a normal reaction to retreat further into your shell if you’ve been hurt or rejected in the past. But how long are you going to allow people or circumstances to keep you from achieving your fullest potential and live a satisfying life?

Redeem the hours you’ve spent feeling sorry for yourself. Get a new perspective about life. Immerse yourself in books, music, and movies that inspire you. Cut out anything in your life that makes you feel bad about yourself.

Another way to build self-awareness is to watch the way you talk to yourself. Do you tend to put yourself down whenever you make a mistake? If so, stop. Treat yourself kindly and say, “Next time, I resolve to do better.”

Learn to validate yourself. Sure, you may have weaknesses, but you have capabilities, too. One of the best ways to build your self-esteem is to identify those areas where you’re good at and capitalize on them.

Also, be aware that from this point you and you alone are responsible for your self-esteem. So like yourself. Like yourself enough that even when you’re not in the company of others, you can be at peace.

Now that you know yourself better, get a clearer idea of what you want most out of life. With a higher level of self-esteem, you can afford to risk more, achieve more, and reach out more to people.

Self esteem and self image are closely connected. How you see yourself in your mind’s eye will affect how you feel about yourself. Workings on your outer image will surly boost your self esteem but it will be temporary again. You will have to work from the inside out. First change from within and then work on your image.

I have already shown you the signs of low self esteem in the previous article. Following are the steps to boost your self esteem and change your life from within-

1- Accept yourself, i.e. your behavior, your nature, your failures etc. We all have something in us that we don’t like and we react when we see the same in others. By accepting these traits in us we become less judgmental of others. Love your flaws/mistakes and forgive yourself for loosing so much in life.

2- Stop being negative. Observe your negative self talk. Know the way you talk and what meaning you give to the circumstances around you. The moment you start with a negative statement or a comment in your mind or otherwise just stop then and there. Negative thinking causes negative emotions, negative feelings and depression, as a result your self esteem gets affected and you feel inferior. Some people call themselves “Unlucky” and hate their own existence. If you are one of them then you should know that you yourself are responsible to change your life.

3- Change your attitude from negative to positive. This needs positive thinking all the time. Always find the good meaning of any circumstances. Learn to change the perception. Be centered and always find something to learn from the negative people or the circumstances. If you are judgmental and always find the negative in others then your attitude is the problem not them.

4- Take care of your mind, body and soul. Negligence in any area will affect you negatively. Closely observe what goes on in your mind. Exercise for the body and meditate for the mind and soul. Meditation changes your thought pattern; as a result the frequency of the re-occurring negative thoughts reduces. Find time for yourself to get connected with your inner self.

5- Be confident. When you start working on these steps you will automatically feel confident about yourself. You will smile often and take things lightly. You will love your achievements and always be genuinely happy with who ever you come in contact with.

6- If you are a too much giving type then learn to take care of yourself. Neglecting your own soul will harm you more in long term. Give yourself a treat or a gift. Be gentle with yourself. Women mostly have low self esteem. They love others but themselves. They have no time for themselves but for everybody. Take care of your health and appearance. Unless you are good with yourself you can’t take care of others so be good with yourself.

7- If you are a bully type then try to find out what you are hiding from yourself and others. If you are arrogant or bully just to prove that you are confident and powerful then you are at fault. It means you have a low self esteem and you are hiding your weakness from the world. Don’t work against yourself by being difficult.

8- Say “No” to the negative labels or criticism given by other people. Just believe in yourself. If you accept the labels given by others then you will be lost and harm yourself more.

9- Finally always be happy and bring difference to someone’s life by helping them. When we bring happiness in someone’s life then our own life becomes more meaningful.

Healthy self esteem means you love yourself. Loving yourself does not mean indulging or hurting others by being selfish. It means accepting yourself with all the flaws and the plus points in you. Spiritually, loving yourself means protecting yourself from all the negative stuff in life. This means not to become negative or depressed. Not to feel rejected, angry or resentful. Not to compare or judge… and so on.

You need to work on yourself step by step. You won’t see the changes instantly but if you are persistent enough to bring out the change in you then very soon you will see the difference in your attitude. You will consciously change the way you see yourself and others. You just can’t work for few days and continue to become negative it is a constant work of a life time.

I wish you all the best.

Vandana

How many of you like to make mistakes? No one? Oh, why not? Perhaps it has to do with the belief that mistakes are bad, wrong and usually full of negative consequences. Well, let me tell you a little story.

I recently had the opportunity to make a very big mistake. And, without going in to detail, I can assure you it hurt. I hurt myself, people involved and even people not involved. It also had negative consequences. I was still in the midst of recovery from the consequences of my mistake when I realized I had a lot of choices. Would I wait to admit my faults or admit them right away? Was I going to use this incident to understand myself better and learn a new behavior or was I going to repeat the same pattern over and over? Was I going to beat myself up or was I going to lovingly hold myself accountable? Was I going to eat myself into numbness or was I going to stay conscious with my feelings of discomfort? Well, it seemed easy to say yes to the latter part of all these choices. However, saying it is almost always easier than doing it.

I decided I would lovingly hold myself accountable. This mistake uncovered a pattern I was unwilling to look at before. It was one of those gray areas I rationalized away. But, this time, I lovingly took my somewhat scared self by the hand and started the clean-up.

Mistakes are a wonderful opportunities to learn and grow. Because of the many negative experiences we have with mistakes – especially when we are children – we do not value mistakes. Some of you may actually hate to make mistakes. As adults we try to avoid them. We try to pretend there is perfection in the world. We try to shape our environment exactly the way we want it. We are afraid to change our environment because it will change our patterns, circumstances and relationships. Change is frightening. We tell ourselves we may not be able to handle change and we may find things are more comfortable left covered.

I encourage you to foster a new attitude toward mistakes. Allow yourself to learn from your mistakes. Play with mistakes. Make little mistakes and see how you feel when you make them. Perfection is only in our imagination. The world is constantly changing and so are you. Let go of old ways and allow the light to shine into the parts of yourself about which you feel less proud. It is only when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable that we will heal.

While we walk towards the bus top one Saturday afternoon by the male’s hostel, which was much dreaded by many ladies because of the manner lots of guys will gaze and make naughty comments aimed at destabilizing the ladies while they have fun laughing their asses out, Oluchi told me how nervous she felt. “I wish I could just snap and disappear from here.” She said clearing her voice to maintain her poise.

I told her it was only natural given the circumstances. We walked on a few steps and she said in her tiny voice, “Gideon, can I tell you something?” A little surprised at her question, “You can tell me anything” I responded. She stopped, looked me in the eyes and said, “I hate my face.” I just chuckled and moved on, thinking to myself what sort of joke. “You know, I’m serious!” she affirmed. “No, you are kidding” I responded without even thinking. Oluchi doubles her pace and walked passed me, obviously disappointed at my response. I was puzzled, and since my thoughts were underdeveloped at the time, I couldn’t help but wonder if she had ever used a mirror. How could such a beauty hate her face? Later on, Oluchi expressed her wish to look entirely differently.

Like me, perhaps you also wonder why Oluchi hated her pretty face. But she’s not alone. Aren’t you too dissatisfied with some things about the way you look? Sincerely, don’t you wish your parents were not fat, so you wouldn’t have inherited the fat DNA? Or wouldn’t you prefer it if your nose was a bit smaller or your ears closer to your head? What about the color of your eyes, your height, shape of your head…. Are they as perfect as you will wish for?

While growing up I always wanted to be 6 feet tall, though I liked my lean body. I prayed for a miracle that will add the needed 2 inches to my 5’10″ height. I even ate more beans despite my hatred for them because my tall brother once told me his secret was “Lots of beans”. I only bloated afterwords, the 2 inches miracle never came! It was a vain wish, comical in retrospect, but painful at the time.

Modern science has tremendously helped in altering people’s looks. Manufacturers spend their best resources and energies employing experts to work out brilliant, age-defying, bio-synthetic, risk-free formulas to recreate/reconstruct people’s critical body parts and make them look, feel and function better. Some people have succeeded in altering their looks partly, while other, entirely. A lot of who looked much better afterword while a few ended up like our legendary Michael Jackson. But all the same, they’ve successfully modified themselves – skin deep! Thanks to science.

I’ve come to feel strongly that there is a need for self-acceptance, no matter how you look. I don’t mean to minimize your right to look the way you choose. In fact, I recommend that you do your best to look the best. But above this, you need to accept your uniqueness as a strength, and fully understand that the real you isn’t how you look, it is rather who you really are, which cannot be revealed by any mirror.

Looks are but a little fragment of the things people wish to change in their lives. I’ve only narrowed down the human fantasies to just looks in order to illustrate a point; to resolve situations superficially, without fixing the deeper and more tender factors is to treat an effect, overlooking the cause. Chronic underlying problems deepens if tackled from outside in. Tackling issues like poor self-esteem in a deep and lasting way can only come from inside out. Simply put, skin deep therapies do not resolve hard-core problems. Ever!

No scientific inventions can change who we really are – our DNA, history and identity. No makeup or make over can conceal our fears.

Plastic surgery can make Oluchi look differently; it can’t make her feel differently. What she needs, like you and I is a mental surgery – the awareness of who we really are, and the acceptance of our individuality.

You may be a very talented person, but if you don’t know how to build your self confidence, your talents will stay hidden from the world and you will never get to benefit from them.

For this reason, let’s look at a simple strategy that will help you learn how to build self-confidence. I qualify each article I write by telling you that I can only make highlights of what you need to do and learn; you need to build your knowledge by learning even more from the tips given here. This simple philosophy was used thousands of years ago by the Greeks, and it worked for them. They went on to become one of the world’s leading civilizations.

Know yourself

Who are you? Can you build or change a person you do not know? It’s highly unlikely. A lot of the time, poor self esteem comes from the weight of other people’s opinions on who you are. Exterior circumstances, that in most times don’t hold any weight, hold you back. You must turn off these voices from the outside and start listening to YOU. Here is one tip I will give you that you must carry with you always: the voice in YOU will never speak so long as it hears the outer voices speaking. You need to close your ears to the outer voices so that you can hear who you really are.

Start to write down who you think you are, because when you write, your voice is strong and your thinking is clear. Make a list of all your positive attributes, and make sure they include those that you have been told as well as those that you know in yourself that you possess.

Self discovery is a process. Even the greatest masters who have lived for many years will tell you that in their later years, self discovery continued. Self discovery does not mean changing who you are, rather improving who you are. You have your inherent nature, and each one of us is born good. You are working to bring the brilliance and goodness in you out.

Start to learn also how your body works. You get to develop a deeper appreciation of who you are. You learn how to work best with what you have, and how to fix things when they go wrong. You will also, more importantly, learn to appreciate yourself with a sense of wonder and awe.

Control Yourself

All self confidence comes from how to control your focus and your thoughts with inner dialogue. This requires deliberate learning over a period of time – that’s why the masters will tell you that learning never stops; they are continually learning new and better ways to control their thoughts.

The mind is a muscle and the more you work it, the more you grow it. Learning to get your mind to focus on positive dialogue will take time, but for each action that you take, you have exercised your mind and its getting better. In today’s world, there seems to be a view that self control comes with a loss of freedom. That’s not true at all. You will never experience true freedom until the day you learn some level of self control. It helps you to detach from outcomes and also to know that it’s in your power to change things that affect your life. It also allows you to tell those you can change from those that you can’t.

This helps you learn how to build self confidence because you know how to act and when to act.

Give others what you have found

You are getting to know yourself and you are starting to build self control. You want to use your new found knowledge and enlightenment to help others – this is a feeling that comes naturally. It’s because you feel the need for a contribution, the need to introduce others to this great new knowledge that you have found. This means that you are on the right track. If you think about most people who lack self confidence, they will hardly ever share any kind of knowledge that they have because they never feel its good enough.

Self confidence helps you to appreciate yourself and stop to be afraid of rejection. Some people will take what you have to say and others won’t; it’s not really up to you. You have done what you were supposed to do and shared what you learnt.

Practice these three steps in such a way that each time you have at least one of them going. Build self confidence by making it a habit to get to know yourself better, to rein in your thoughts and then to constantly share with others your new lessons in life.

This is Marc Turner and I wanted to talk about the Mindset that Poor and Millionaire Mindset people have.

During the Time I have been on this Earth, I have experienced so much in my travels overseas and in the Military. Many people have the future all figured out and know what it takes to get to the Next Levels in your life. So lets find out what happens on the other end of the spectrum.

P.O.O.R. – People Overlooking Opportunity Repeatedly – The Conversation held by these Types of people usually are more towards negative, known thinking ideas ( Funny to Say) that are not about much but to help the self gratification of their own short falls. These people fall into the 97% of people who never strive for more than they have and make excuses. When you decide that in life that you can never do things then you also listen to those that are of Equal or Less value that you have then, your lifestyle is defined.

Millionaire Mindset – The Ability to Strive and Push forward by utilizing Daily Tools and activities that generate the Types of Success that one-day achieve Excellence!!!

With this Statement, most people ( 97%) will never understand. It take time and Work and the Will to become more than you are now. It takes Time for things to move forward and for ever failure that you meet you can learn and pick up and move forward. Due to the hard times that we face in this tough economy – People still seek true Opportunity.

These 2 categories are the basis of the way life is fulfilled. The type of people who we surrounding ourselves with can define what we want for our future. Due to the emotions that are put behind these words, it really hurts the heart to know that 97% of people have the freedoms to change their situations and still feel that circumstances will define the way they choose to live their lives.

Well that is great but the Light at the end of the tunnel is that 3% of people who are Successful understand that they have total control of all aspects of their lives. Becoming more take More than to settle then give up on your Dream. Take you to the Next level so that You are in control of what your Destiny has ahead for you.

Thank You,

Marc Turner – Moneytrain Technology