Posts tagged Circumstances
Obstacles Are Just in the Way!
Sep 8th
Do you have those days where one thing goes wrong, and the next thing you know, everything else seem to go wrong throughout the day? Your car breaks down on the way to work. Your then late for work. You paid X amount of dollars to repair and tow your vehicle; and while at work, everyone has a question or problem that requires your attention. The list then goes on and on and seem to follow you. Whatever your obstacles are you must immediately recognize what you are feeling. If you are angry, frustrated, irritated, or feel any negative emotions, I can certainly guarantee that more of what causes you to have those emotions will appear.
Breathe! It will be okay if you decide it. You have the choice and ability to end that cycle that overwhelms you. Accept that things do happen for a reason and be thankful you are able to read this article or anything for that matter. Obstacles are there to strengthen us. It takes a form of different situations to help us produce patience, understanding, and mainly to gain wisdom. I know that in the moment, it can be challenging to put on that positive hat and roll up that happy sleeve. It’s part of our human nature to be frustrated in the moment but we have a choice if we want to dwell upon it or accept it and move forward.
To let you in on a little secret, the above events are exactly what happened to me today. Earlier, I turned to my co-worker and said, “When it rains it pours”. Guess what? It continued to pour! I will be the first to admit that I had a moment of dwelling and realized how much energy it sucked out of me. I was being tested. Tested to see how I will deal with these situations. Tested to overcome these obstacles. Tested on my ability to strengthen!
Until I recognized that my constant state of frustration was inviting more circumstances to arise, I began to take deep breaths and say to myself, “I will move forward and rise above this”! When we affirm statements, it too will take the form that’s equivalent. Good or bad! Obstacles do arrive in life no matter who you are, how old you are, or what you have. It is part of our growing process as human beings. It enables us to make better decisions in life if we learn from it. Obstacles are made to be conquered. It forces us to exercise our innate ability to apply the strength we have inside. Tap into that strength by being thankful for what you do have and the lessons that will guide you to wisdom.
Easy Ways to Calm Yourself Down
Sep 2nd
The art of calming oneself down is worth learning well, if only because it guarantees us much happiness when mastered.
Sometimes, the smallest things set me off on the path that ends in me feeling rotten, and I then find it difficult to snap out of it. Well guess what – over time, I discovered that it was better for me to exercise some control over my emotions and try not to get annoyed in the first place. Over time, I became better at this, and I am proud to say that I do not get so easily agitated anymore.
If it involves another individual, I try to disengage myself from the situation as fast as I can. Just walking away and occupying myself with something else gives me the opportunity to think more clearly and put things into perspective since emotion is not clouding my judgement at that point. Depending on the circumstances and whether I think it is worth my effort, I might then decide to go back and come up with a solution for the issue.
Of course there are times this technique does not work, for instance at your workplace or office. In this scenario, I just attempt to think of pleasant thoughts or do something to bring back the good memories. Oh, and do not forget to breathe deeply. Having had a (mostly) happy life, this is not too difficult a task for me.
Another method that works well for some people is to invent, in their minds, a hilarious, ridiculous or silly event and relate that to a person they get annoyed with. They regularly make that mental connection between the person and that imaginary event. Whenever things come to a head with that person, that funny thought automatically triggers in their mind, and they would discover that they are much less negatively affected by the less than desirable interaction.
The main objective of this mental exercise is to break the hold these annoying folks have over you. The dark clouds vanish and you get to go back to your inner place of equilibrium, peace and balance.
In the end, nothing beats old, reliable GSOH (Good Sense of Humor), which remains the best cure for avoiding high blood pressure and heart disease, not beta blockers or statins.
