Posts tagged Boss
The Truth About Self-Help Books
Nov 1st
They sell in their millions, but do they really help us or are just means to make money from people in need? They are filled with powerful quotes and advice, but a week later we’ve forgotten every word.
Today we are facing an epidemic of emotional problems, depression, violence and eating disorders. We are desperate for quick fix and the “self help” market is booming.
But does it help us? Is it possible to transform a person just by reading a book? Maybe it can happen with the books aimed at specific problems and showing us step-by-step approach to change the way we deal with those problems.
Positive affirmations may help certain people with high self esteem, but not others who need help most. Researchers have discovered that unbelievable positive affirmations actually strengthens negative view of people with low self esteem.
If you know deep down that there is more live for, to achieve, to experience, then self-help books can help you get into action. 90% of the readers don’t even finish the book, almost 10% read it and make a plan but fail to apply it, and only few percents of them actually take ACTION.
To overcome problems we must accept responsibility of our actions. That’s impossible, daunting thought for over 90% of people. Blame the boss, government, spouse, it is easier, everybody is doing it. If we accept that we are in control of our lives, then comes the scary part – taking ACTION.
“If you believe you can or you can’t, you are right.” Henry Ford
How Not to Let People Take Too Much of Your Time
Sep 30th
However organized a person you may be and however much you may care about keeping up with your “to do list”, there are some people who can take too much of your time and prevent you from staying on schedule. Preventing others for consuming more of your time than you actually have is the best defense.
When it comes to clients, let the voice mail or your assistant take the messages for you while you can still get away with it. When it comes to supervisors, spend time where you can work hard but not be easily reached and leave a note on the office door saying that you are in the library, taking care of errands or experimenting in the lab. Work is a good excuse even when it comes to bosses. If the boss is actually you and your employees keep you busy with unimportant matters, you can always ask them how their work is going to make them want to shorten the discussion.
When coworkers spend too much time chatting with you, you will both be seen as idle and distracted. It is best to shorten the talks for both your ability to stay focused as well as for your reputation at the job. Here are some good lines to use with them: “I would really like to talk but it’s not the right time, I’m sorry”, “I have to finish this, I’ll meet you at lunch time in the break room”, “Could this please wait? I have to send this by 2 o’clock and I’m still working on it”.
Where family and friends are concerned, you may be disappointed with yourself for thinking that they are stealing away your time. If staying focused at work is important to you, then just offer them as much of your free time as you can so that they don’t need you in your working hours. In this way you won’t be feeling bad about saying no to them from time to time either, because you actually give them attention whenever you can.
When it comes to new acquaintances whom you know you cannot get closer too, try and let them understand from starters that you are a busy person and that exchanging regular visits is not something that can fit into your schedule. Not being prompt when returning phone calls and not telling them things that are personal to you will maintain your relationship at the level of just being acquaintances. This attitude is fairer than it is to make friends with someone new and drop him or her when you see that you cannot keep up.
