Posts tagged Ambitions
What Do You Want To Do With Your Life?
Oct 28th
I see dead people every day in my life. They are dead and they still walk among us. I am not joking and really mean it.
The living dead that I am referring to are people who just exist in today’s society with no aim or purpose in their lives. They are living, but yet dead at the same time (ironic isn’t it?). When you ask them what makes them excited or passionate, a large number of people have forgotten about it. They cite reasons that when they were younger, they had dreams. Some even had ambitions. The sad thing is that after many years of working and climbing the corporate ladder, they looked back and asked themselves “Am I happy and is this life?”
In the book Halftime, it describes that for most people in the first half of their lives, they really work hard to pursue success. Everyone has a different idea of what success looks like. For some it will be money or career, while others it could be about places they have travelled or people they have met. However, when they enter the second half of their lives, they look back at the work of their hands and ask the following fundamental questions: “What have I done so far?” and the usual “Am I contented with it?” They realise that their lives are no longer about pursuing success, it is about pursuing significance.
Here’s my story and journey of how I started my entrepreneur journey:
I started off my career working in an engineering company that was extremely established in Singapore. I was into building automation and served as a project engineer handling building projects. It was something that I could do, in fact, it was something that I was trained well for. I mean, my early years in life was spent on preparing for a job in the engineering sector.
Until something happened. At the age of 26, I started to ask myself a question which all adults actually ask at one point in their lives and that is “what do I really want to do with my life?” It was astonishing simple but yet, it could not be answered at all. I was dumb folded.
This question kept ringing in my head. I actually ignored it, thinking that it will go away. It did go away, only to resurface again a week later, then another week and a couple of days later. It just kept coming back. For some adults, they ignored it to a point where their dreams were drowned by the immediate concerns of providing for the family. I acknowledge that all of us have a responsibility to fulfill to our families, but what has happened to our dreams in the process? Can there be a way to fulfill both at the same time?
It took me a year of soul searching and to constantly ask what I am passionate about? And I finally found it. I discovered that I really love to teach and inspire people towards fun, loving and supportive relationships. Not only I found it, I took massive action towards it. I started asking myself how can I do more of what I am passionate about? Are there groups that I can join to do just that? Is there a career decision that I have to make for that to happen? Can I change my attitude towards life and start taking personal responsibility for all the results that I have been getting? Will I make a firm decision to change my life right now?
Fast forward into the present now. I have traveled to 7 countries so far, conducting training and giving talks on motivation, mindset change and building teams. At a young age, I have spoken to CEOs, directors and people twice my age. I have given keynote speeches in conferences and learning seminars. I have personally trained or spoken to 5400 people. Everything started because I started to find out what makes me excited and alive. So, my question to you is what makes you excited? What makes you feel alive? Will you take some time to list them down? Don’t do it for me, but do it for yourself!
Do read my questions that I have posted earlier here and reflect on it. Take time to clear the clutter off your mind and another 30 minutes to reflect upon it. Do share with me on what you have discovered!
Building Self Confidence Made Easy
Oct 3rd
Building your self confidence is something which is not all too complicated to develop, and would benefit you greatly in the accomplishment of the things you are trying to attract to your life. It’s not natural to lack self confidence, but many people do tend to lack self confidence. This article is for anyone who lacks self confidence and wants to build it up. There are great benefits to having a higher self esteem and the confidence that accompanies you in doing so, such as landing a better job, attracting and having better relations with others, more control of your finances, and overall better feelings of health and self worth.
Outlined is a basic approach to building your self confidence which hopefully will get some momentum behind your ambitions for making this simple shift in your thinking and desire to have more self confidence.
First and foremost… Get to Know yourself deeper and get clearer why you feel your lack of self confidence.
Building self confidence begins with knowing oneself at a profoundly deep level. Getting to know yourself can be a lifelong practice which requires some discipline to follow through with. Step one is getting to know yourself at a profoundly deep level. Ask yourself, or try to get in touch with the part of you that seems to know why you feel like you are lacking self confidence. It’s quite possible something a long time ago is affecting your self confidence of today. It takes a lot of time and discipline to get a clear answer to why you are experiencing the lack of self confidence, and this is certainly the first step at trying to build your self confidence up. Getting clear as to why you feel lacking in self confidence is an important first step, and learning how to let go of past episodes in your life will surely be a step towards building your self confidence for tomorrow.
Next is actually a continuation of the first step, but you will have to make a lot of effort and control yourself to build your self esteem. By control, I am speaking about the inner dialogue you have with yourself. It requires some control not to think negatively about yourself and the experiences you have had throughout your life which lead you to lacking self confidence. As you practice and apply this into your life, slowly your self esteem and confidence will be more aligned with your desired intention to improve how you feel about yourself. It’s not often for people to change their thinking “on the dime” sort of speak, and magically have more self confidence. There are a lot of tools and products on the market today that can help lead you with your ambition to build your self confidence, and developing yourself? for better self confidence is a lifetime commitment that takes work.
Finally, and the best part of all is to give to yourself and others! Yes, that’s all there is to it, just learning how to do things for yourself and others which contribute to society and or someone on a personal level will build your confidence. It may require you to step outside of your comfort zone, but by doing so you will reinforce your growth towards building your self confidence. An example of this would be something like helping your elderly neighbor with some outdoor chore like cleaning off the porch, or trimming up overgrown weeds. Giving to yourself can mean anything from enrolling in some courses, investing in products such as books and listening to people such as Louise Hay, and Wayne Dyer who live inspiring lives. Just by following inspiring people can help build your self confidence by learning more about yourself, and keeping yourself motivated to be constantly vigilant of your intentions and elimination of negative thoughts about yourself. Eventually, as you develop and grow in understanding of yourself, your own self confidence and self esteem will strengthen. Soon, you will be an inspiration for others to follow. Which will further advance your own positive opinions of yourself and you will have long forgotten the days when you lacked self confidence. This is self confidence made easy!
